Thinking of changing mobile number to get over ex

LegacyUser

My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago but he hasn't left me alone since. During the first year he rang me a lot and texted me and obviously it made it impossible for me to get over him (he broke up with me btw!). It has happened a couple of times that I was in a good place mentally to finally move on and ignored his texts but he always manages to reel me back in.

Hes like an addiction that I have and when he texts me its like an alcoholic having one drink and I'm back thinking of him again and wanting to see him. I managed to ignore him for 6 months but then one night he texted me and I must have been vulnerable or something and we started seeing each other again but i've stopped that now. We can't get back together as he has issues that he hasn't resolved so theres no happy ending there.

So I'm thinking of changing my mobile number once and for all so that I can finally get over him 100% but I actually don't want to change my number as I've had it for years and its a big pain. Also I just don't know if i'm brave enough to change it. It would be a big step for me moving forward and at least get some kind of control back. I'm so sick of him making comebacks into my life whenever he feels like it.

I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and would this be a really good idea for me?

Daisy M

Speak to your mobile provider and see if you can block his number from contacting you, if this is not possible you could look at getting a phone that allows you to block certain numbers, lots of phones do this. If neither of these is possible then I would recommend you get a new number, youve split up with this guy two years and it sounds as if you are only now beginning to move on. He is stringing you along and not allowing you to move on with your life.

Asphyxia

Either change your number or block him I've gotten numbers blocked before just go into the store you bought your phone or ring up customer services they'll have it done quick for you.

LegacyUser

They are great ideas. I'll definitely go to O2 and see what they can do. It'll be a great relief to end the BS once and for all.

Firetrap

If O2 can't block a number, look into getting a handset that can block his number. It'd be a sickener if you were the one who had to go to the trouble of changing your phone number because of him.

Vicxas

Ive done it before to get an ex away from you, its like a relief tbh.

G-Money

I guess the only downside of blocking his number is that he could change it or call/text you from a different number and probably still get through. So from that perspective, changing numbers might be more of a permanent solution. Just saying though.

I came very close to doing this myself OP a couple of years ago. Long story short, really liked a girl, got hurt and needed to cut her out of my life. I deleted all her details, emails, everything. I deleted my Facebook and re-created it under a different email address that she didn't have. I also hid my picture/profile in searches from what I remember to avoid her trying to find me again. I have a reasonably common name so if you searched for me you'd find tons of results so it would be hard for someone to stumble across me.

However probably the biggest pain was that I deleted my main email account. This was the main way she'd contact me apart from the phone or texts so it was a reasonably big step. It was a slight pain in that I had to change loads of website profiles that used my old address. But I can't tell you the relief I had when I deleted that email address and created a new one and was able to relax and not have to be half sick/half happy if I saw an email from her.

She hasn't been in touch since via phone or text and it's been a couple of years so I think I'm home free.

But if you are sure the relationship is a dead end then just cut things off once and for all. It's the only way to move on IMHO.

LegacyUser

Thanks so much for your post G-Money. Its a comfort to know that other people have felt the same way.

Well I've managed to block calls and texts from his phone to mine, I've blocked his email address and blocked him on Facebook. Its mad the stuff that you have to do in these situations. I don't think it'll dawn on him that I've blocked his texts/calls but the problem is that he could call to my home anytime. Theres always that chance. I think (hope) it'll probably be a couple of months before he gets in touch again (via text I'd imagine) so I'm sure by then my head will be in a better place (if he did then call to my house).

It does freak me out that he'll always try to contact me somehow. The last time I saw him I did go on and on about it being better if he just left me alone so I hope that rang through.

I think changing my number would be a great guarantee of never hearing from him again and a great comfort so maybe in a couple of months I'll do that (there are reasons that would make it impractical right now for me). Its such a relief to have him blocked now though. Its fantastic actually.