did i do the right thing??

augustus gloop · 14-06-2011 01:30PM #1

firstly if i post this in the wrong section sorry...

i met a girl about 4 months ago and asked her out in a bar, she laughed but accepted the offer and we xchanged nos, we got together, and slowly we developed a relationship, normal stuff. i liked her from the start, although after being seriously burned a few years back i am hesitant to throw myself into much, esp when she told me she only finished a 8 yr thing 2 months previous.
now, importantly this girl is extremely independent, which suits me as i am the same, and she laid the ground rules that it was a sex thing only.... again i am happy with this arrangement.
as time goes by we move on from seeing each other twice a week to maybe 4 times a week, but i try to stem it as she starts to ask me round most nights, starts talking about our relationship and still some what contradicting herself saying how its still just a sex thing.
we are both in agreement that sex with other people is off limits.
now she has a male best friend, who professes his undying love for herat the weekend, i pick her up at the airport on the way home she tells me this. i ask her reply, and she says she will think about it.
as much as i hate to admit it to myself, i am put out, the one thing i did not want to happen, when i drop her at her place i have it out with her, its all quite civil but i feel like i have to end things there. and i do.
despite what we both agreed, we both have developed feelings, and we agreed this. having a future together is pretty impossible, as i am tied to live here in oz for the next few years, where she is a doctor and has spent most of her adult life studing, and plans to travel the world in 2 years. (she is aussie)
am i right/wrong some thoughts please, im sorry if the story is not well worded, i wrote it as it came to me

TimeToShine · 14-06-2011 01:32PM

you were right

Young_gunner · 14-06-2011 01:32PM

augustus gloop wrote: »

firstly if i post this in the wrong section sorry...

i met a girl about 4 months ago and asked her out in a bar, she laughed but accepted the offer and we xchanged nos, we got together, and slowly we developed a relationship, normal stuff. i liked her from the start, although after being seriously burned a few years back i am hesitant to throw myself into much, esp when she told me she only finished a 8 yr thing 2 months previous.
now, importantly this girl is extremely independent, which suits me as i am the same, and she laid the ground rules that it was a sex thing only.... again i am happy with this arrangement.
as time goes by we move on from seeing each other twice a week to maybe 4 times a week, but i try to stem it as she starts to ask me round most nights, starts talking about our relationship and still some what contradicting herself saying how its still just a sex thing.
we are both in agreement that sex with other people is off limits.
now she has a male best friend, who professes his undying love for herat the weekend, i pick her up at the airport on the way home she tells me this. i ask her reply, and she says she will think about it.
as much as i hate to admit it to myself, i am put out, the one thing i did not want to happen, when i drop her at her place i have it out with her, its all quite civil but i feel like i have to end things there. and i do.
despite what we both agreed, we both have developed feelings, and we agreed this. having a future together is pretty impossible, as i am tied to live here in oz for the next few years, where she is a doctor and has spent most of her adult life studing, and plans to travel the world in 2 years. (she is aussie)
am i right/wrong some thoughts please, im sorry if the story is not well worded, i wrote it as it came to me

just go with the flow man - see what happens....