Addictions (Escorts/Porn)

deco87

Just seeking views on the above. This issue has caused me severe pain and heartache for near three decades , from the age of 17. I cannot get away from it. It is as alive in me now as it was when it started. It has coloured my life and attitudes in a very negative way I cannot imagine in terms of stress what I have caused myself pyschologically over the years.I have seeked out the most appropiate support and counselling from the experts in this specific area and I have attended same with the huge financical expense attached to that.Having said that I also read widely in particular Patrick Carnes (where a lot of therapist have taken parts from and incorporated into their therapy - quite rightly)and I kind of end up hearing the same avenues that one must take in order to facilitate recovery from this devasting addiction. Despite knowing that my actions could lead to huge casatropic damage to me , it seems to make little or no difference to my activities. I firmly believe that this addiction is incurable if one is unfortunate enough to be a sufferer it is a life sickness. A quick example of what I mean is to take for example people in positions of power (usa most recent) doing really stupid things despite being highly motivated and committed to high office let this 'failing' destroy them.I would love to hear from someone that has overcome this type of addiction...I am very skeptical such a person exists.:(:(

yawnstretch

I suggest two things. Motivation and distraction.

You need something to hope for. A reason that is very, very important to you to quit.

You need to replace these addictions with another activity (not something bad).

Good luck

Edit: One final addition - booby trap the addictive activity. What I mean is deliberately set things up so that if you ever do them you'll suffer immediately. This is a tricky one that depends on the circumstances but for example if you were living with someone else (so that you might be more easily caught) you might take less risks. The booby trap is one you need to setup yourself as you know what steps you take to keep these things secret and if you can ruin those steps it could help.

julies boy

did you try the human givens approach that works off the idea of desentasisesing triggers

i would be interested to see if that might work for this problem

deco87

can you give some further details please

Odysseus

Sorry we can't give out personal advise on this forum. I have worked in the addiction services for the past 14 years, what I would suggest is you contact you local HSE Addiction Service and ask to speak to one of their therapists/counsellors, if you are looking for professional help with this issue.

Lots of people have overcome similar addictions, you could also contact a local 12 step fellowship that deal with similar addictions. If you would perfer that I moved the thread to PI in the hope that people there may have be in a similar position there, feel free to PM me. Best of luck with it.