compulsive liar

LegacyUser

hey all, hoping for some advice here. Ive recently discovered that my 12 yr old is a very convincing liar. Im at my wits end as i cant believe the lords prayer out of her mouth, and when shes caught out she's not even slightly remorseful. I've spoken to her at length and explained the importance of trust in our relationship, and that I need to know shes going to be where she says she is, but its falling on deaf ears. At the weekend she snuck off to a teenage disco, and when she was found out refused to take any responsibility blaming her friends instead (which i dont buy for 1 second). She then lied through her teeth to the people that organised the disco, and shes so convincing they believed her. Even when shes caught out lying she still continues to, and insists shes telling the truth!! Anyway, she is now confined to her room for the foreseeable future as I cant stand having her around me, and I know that a terrible thing to say about your child but thats just how I feel at the moment. She just doesnt seem to get it at all and I feel like washing my hands of her.
Anyone go through this???

Curry Addict

u need to relax a little about this. u are her guide in life not her master. its a delicate time in her life and everything is very confusing. if u push her too hard she will go against you and things will only get worse. try too keep a good balance with her and maybe let her experiment a little. she needs to live and learn a little right now.

Ickle Magoo

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Hi atmywits

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Justask

atmywits wrote: »

hey all, hoping for some advice here. Ive recently discovered that my 12 yr old is a very convincing liar. Im at my wits end as i cant believe the lords prayer out of her mouth, and when shes caught out she's not even slightly remorseful. I've spoken to her at length and explained the importance of trust in our relationship, and that I need to know shes going to be where she says she is, but its falling on deaf ears. At the weekend she snuck off to a teenage disco, and when she was found out refused to take any responsibility blaming her friends instead (which i dont buy for 1 second). She then lied through her teeth to the people that organised the disco, and shes so convincing they believed her. Even when shes caught out lying she still continues to, and insists shes telling the truth!! Anyway, she is now confined to her room for the foreseeable future as I cant stand having her around me, and I know that a terrible thing to say about your child but thats just how I feel at the moment. She just doesnt seem to get it at all and I feel like washing my hands of her.
Anyone go through this???

Do you give her much responsibilties??

Maybe its a trust thing on both parts, IMO sending her to her room wont do any good... just drive her to close up with you and i dont think thats a good idea.

I think if you treat teenagers as teenagers not kids they normally come around.
Best of luck to you, been a mum is not easy all the time

LegacyUser

OP I have a relative very like your daughter. he started lying froma young age and to be honest his parents could not get a hold of it at all.
my advice is to get some professional help and soon.
my family did not and it has resulted in this particular "liar" driving apart many family members. he is now all grown up and nobody wants to see him coming as it is hard to even have smalltalk with such a compulsive liar. if he told you it was raining outside you could not believe him!