Feel Like Im trapped in a bad situation

LegacyUser

Sorry in advance for the rambling in this post I know there are people on here with way worse problems then me but I really need to here outside peoples perspective on the situation in which I find myself in so here goes:


Ill start off with a bit of background when I was in my teens I never really felt liked I fitted in anywhere and often got bullied so I started hanging around with some very dodgy guys lads that have now ended up in prison or worse. I felt like people couldn't mess with me and I realize now it was childish as I did have to learn some things the hard way Im just glad I finished school and am now in college. But by removing myself from that crowd I have now found myself in a situation where I have only a few close friends and even they seem to have issues (1 guy in particular he is my best friend but has become fairly messed up from hanging around with the people I mentioned above although he as well has removed himself from them). I have now gone working in America for the summer with a friend from school, now here is the messed up part I thought this guy was pretty cool normal fella but turns out he is mad into drinking like all the time, and Im just not up for that stuff anymore as I drank we to much in the past and took to many drugs so I tend to only have a few drinks maybe one night a week like a friday I limit myself to about three (drink just causes me to get into fights).

Now this guy got me a job over here in the states but turns out all the guys that work there have been to prison and are seriously dodgy fellas, I cant believe this is happening again I have tried so hard in Ireland to avoid these types of Individuals now Im right back where I started, I cant get away from these guys easy with out offending them I feel trapped!!!!!! My life has been getting better and here I'am dealing with stuff that was similar to my past.

Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do here, I just want to get away from this. And I just want to make it clear I have not been involved in anything stupid here but just being around these types of people has seriously brought me back to an aggressive mindframe and its just not me. I have met other normal Irish here and what I forgot to mention above is that I find it very difficult to open up to new or unfamiliar people because I have been messed with in the past and I honestly thought I was getting better but this feels like Im back at square one not trusting anyone and pent up with anger.

Pandora2

needhelp50 wrote: »

Sorry in advance for the rambling in this post I know there are people on here with way worse problems then me but I really need to here outside peoples perspective on the situation in which I find myself in so here goes:


Ill start off with a bit of background when I was in my teens I never really felt liked I fitted in anywhere and often got bullied so I started hanging around with some very dodgy guys lads that have now ended up in prison or worse. I felt like people couldn't mess with me and I realize now it was childish as I did have to learn some things the hard way Im just glad I finished school and am now in college. But by removing myself from that crowd I have now found myself in a situation where I have only a few close friends and even they seem to have issues (1 guy in particular he is my best friend but has become fairly messed up from hanging around with the people I mentioned above although he as well has removed himself from them). I have now gone working in America for the summer with a friend from school, now here is the messed up part I thought this guy was pretty cool normal fella but turns out he is mad into drinking like all the time, and Im just not up for that stuff anymore as I drank we to much in the past and took to many drugs so I tend to only have a few drinks maybe one night a week like a friday I limit myself to about three (drink just causes me to get into fights).

Now this guy got me a job over here in the states but turns out all the guys that work there have been to prison and are seriously dodgy fellas, I cant believe this is happening again I have tried so hard in Ireland to avoid these types of Individuals now Im right back where I started, I cant get away from these guys easy with out offending them I feel trapped!!!!!! My life has been getting better and here I'am dealing with stuff that was similar to my past.

Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do here, I just want to get away from this. And I just want to make it clear I have not been involved in anything stupid here but just being around these types of people has seriously brought me back to an aggressive mindframe and its just not me. I have met other normal Irish here and what I forgot to mention above is that I find it very difficult to open up to new or unfamiliar people because I have been messed with in the past and I honestly thought I was getting better but this feels like Im back at square one not trusting anyone and pent up with anger.

Come home!!! You have far too much to lose and you do not want to end up in a US Jail!! You know how these things go, wrong place wrong time, guilty by association, I could go on.....Look for a flight today...offer your mate to accompany you home if he chooses not to...leave him there. Sounds harsh but all necessary...your gut is telling you this stinks..listen to it!!!

Da Shins Kelly

Remember, the police in the US have a zero tolerance policy. You might not have done anything illegal yourself, but if one of these people you're associating with does, you could be implicated. If you're caught in any situation that the cops consider even remotely illegal, you're in a lot of trouble, and you certainly don't want to land yourself in a US jail.

I think your best bet is to come home and have some time away from all this before you find yourself in a serious pickle. Just tell them that your parents want you to come back or whatever. You don't have to tell them the truth, just make something up. You have no obligation to these people, and you can come home any time you want. I would too, if you seriously think that you might end up in trouble with the law.

LegacyUser

I dont feel like im gunna get in trouble with these guys they dont seem interested in dragging me into their world by that means. Its just being around these sort of people that driving me insane and most people are just gunna avoid us because of who we know. I forgot to mention the other guy Im over here with is totally normal in comparison but he is so caught up in their stories of the past that he wants to stick around with these guys, but I know how this really is. Im currently looking for a new job in another part of the states where their are some people I know from college so Im gunna try and leave and head over to them hopefully it will play out alright. These guys are not stupid enough to get some strange Irish lads involved that way with them so Im not really worried that way, its just being around them that is doing my head in same old hard man crap which I used to be familiar with.