Should I text Her?

LegacyUser

I recently got talking to really nice girl online, few messages back and forth. She was only on it a day and decided to delete her page (said she was creeped out by some of the messages) but before she did she PM'd me her number "if I wanted to keep in touch"

So I text her, few messages back and forth and after an hour she stopped replying. The chat was very light and casual, nothing that I can see that would offend her or anything.

Now this was only yesterday and it was around five the replying stopped, I know it's not that long and anything could have happened to stop her replying, I just found it a bit strange, especially seeing as she sent me her number.

I just wanted peoples opinions on this?

thegspot

Text her, See what the story is... No harm

Justask

Text her, and see if she replies.... if she doesnt leave it.

(1 message rule!!!)

purplekitty

yeah totally...
just text her asking how her weekend was...
she probably was just working/ or went out last night.
there's no harm

LegacyUser

Text her. If she replies, text* again and ask her if you can phone her so you can talk properly? Very hard to maintain conversations through text.


*Normally I would say call on the phone without having to ask her by text if it's alright, but she's had to delete her page after getting weird messages, so it might be just as well to ok the phone call with her first.

LegacyUser

Wow this could be me...except it isnt! Was bored this week and went on to a dating website to see what its all about...tbh im exactly the same as that lady, got a couple of creepy msgs from guys and it put me off the whole thing. I wont lie, i knew it wasnt for me before i even signed up. Deleted my profile the next day.

Anyway the fact she gave you her num is impressive. If she deleted her account and got some odd msgs from guys, id imagine she finds the experience a bit odd, and thats why she stopped texting you.

Give her a few days. Do Not text today. Last thing you want is for her to lump you with the rest of the guys and think your a bit overly eager/odd also... i dont blame her from taking a back seat for a few days, its not for everyone. A few too forward emails can reinforce any doubts you had about online dating

LegacyUser

hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh wrote: »

Give her a few days. Do Not text today. Last thing you want is for her to lump you with the rest of the guys and think your a bit overly eager/odd also... i dont blame her from taking a back seat for a few days, its not for everyone. A few too forward emails can reinforce any doubts you had about online dating

This is exactly what I am thinking, I had intended to leave it until Wednesday or Thursday to text anyway, that wouldn't be too bad would it? I didn't want to overwhelm her seeing as she was so easily freaked out by the site, I think this is a time to play it cool considering the circumstances.

Surely if she gave out her number she must be some bit interested? I mean considering she was so freaked out in the first place it can't have been a light decision to hand it out? I wondered if maybe she regretted giving me the number or something.

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Chucky the tree

I wouldn't text her again. If she she got creeped out by weridos on a dating site then texting her back so soon after she didn't reply to you won't look good at all. The last thing you want to do is be coming on strong when the girl has already had a bad experience with internet dating and contact from men she doesn't know.

A girl you don't know doesn't text you for 24hours and you're this worried about it? Maybe she was busy or had no credit or something, I mean people don't have to keep in contact all the time
Leave it a few days and see, then maybe text again

LegacyUser

Random2011 wrote: »

This is exactly what I am thinking, I had intended to leave it until Wednesday or Thursday to text anyway, that wouldn't be too bad would it? I didn't want to overwhelm her seeing as she was so easily freaked out by the site, I think this is a time to play it cool considering the circumstances.

Surely if she gave out her number she must be some bit interested? I mean considering she was so freaked out in the first place it can't have been a light decision to hand it out? I wondered if maybe she regretted giving me the number or something.

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Id be inclined to leave it a week and half from initial contact.. That way youve distanced yourself from the odd guys and she'll prob have forgotten about the experience and be more open to contact.

The fact that she gave you the number is a good sign

Distorted

Just chill OP. She's probably either left work at 5 or has gone to work where she can't message people. Does it matter? The above suggestions of waiting from anything from a few days to a week and a half to suggest actually meeting up are good. Desperation and constant neediness to stay in touch are usually a bit off-putting.

LegacyUser

Again thanks for the replies. I haven't text her at all since.

@bluewolf. I'm not worried at all, just curious. Of course I know people don't have to be in contact all the time. I mean I can usually go a day or two without texting someone I'm seeing, nevermind someone I hardly know. Space is something I view as very important. I just wanted peoples opinions considering the circumstances.

@hhhhhhhhh. Thanks, I'll leave it until this time next week maybe, if I do text her at all.

Maybe I should make it clear. I'm not panicking or anything over the fact she didn't reply. I just wondered what other people would make of the situation. I'm not the needy type at all.

I just wanted peoples views on whether it was worth texting again at some stage or to just leave it. I was just wondering if the not replying bit was a hint to me to leave her alone or whether she freaked and thought "why did I give this guy my num, he's prob like the rest"

Rahl

Give it a bit of time then chance texting her again.

Vicxas

Id say wait mate, last thing you need is her thinking that youre far too needy and eager. just play it cool, rome wasnt built in a day