Wedding invite dilemma.

LegacyUser

A friend of mine is getting married in two weeks. The wedding is on 200 miles from where I live, in Donegal. I had planned to go with my boyfriend and make a lovely weekend of it in a friend's holiday home, but then he split up with me a few weeks ago. This was something I didn't see coming at all, but in retrospect it probably was. I had been very much looking forward to the time away with him, but that's life I guess.

I'm mostly ok, keeping busy, concentrating on work and surrounding myself with friends and having fun. However I'm not sure if a weekend away so far away, in a house by myself is what I need right now. I do miss him. I wont really know many people at the wedding as they are old college friends and I haven't hung out with them in years. I'm sure the wedding itself would be fine, but the drive there and back and the hangover maybe less so.

Now something else has come up that lots of other friends will be at, and I'm considering going to that instead. I'd definitely feel more comfortable with that group of people. Would it be awful of me to back out of wedding at this late stage? I just cant help feeling that I'm going to feel a bit sad and lonely at it. It wouldnt be so bad if it weren't so far away. And I dont really have anyone I can bring (anyone I can ask is too complicated and I want to keep life simple for a while)

I am a friend

Have you already accepted the invite? Can you bring a friend instead?

LegacyUser

I have accepted the invite for me +1.

I cant think of anyone to bring. Like I mentioned before, its 200 miles away.

I am a friend

TBH, I think its very late to back out of a wedding at this stage... It doenst have to be a male friend. Would you not bring a female friend?

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

TBH, I think its very late to back out of a wedding at this stage... It doenst have to be a male friend. Would you not bring a female friend?

I cant think of anyone, honestly They're pretty much all in relationships, have babies, really busy etc etc.

I probably should have mentioned that its not a traditional style wedding, in that only immediate family will be at the ceremony, and as far as I'm aware, there's no formal meal.

ziedth

When I got married OP we could change the numbers up till the week of the wedding without having to pay for it so I'd maybe try ring the hotel and asked would they be charged and if they are not I'd look after yourself and meet up with your friends.

Any number of things could have come up. If the couple will be charged to be honest I'd still attend the wedding. Could you ask a friend who is free and make a girls weekend out of it? Spa then get boozed like? Could be fun.

i think if your heart isnt in it and you dont feel up to it for personal reasons than you shouldn't feel bad about going, i mean its two weeks away, when i got married plenty of people dropped out a few days and even a day before, i wasnt annoyed because they had perfectly good reasons for not attending even though they had accepted, thats life!

If your friend is a good friend she will understand, its a tough time for you and i dont care how this sounds - but do what makes you happy, good luck!

Witchie

I brought one of my best mates to a wedding yesterday and tbh it was better bringing her than some of my other mates fared bringing a fella. The fellas got really drunk and moaned and ruined the day for their OH's on the main part where as myself and my mate and another friend who was there alone, were not off the dancefloor and had the best nite's craic.

I would do as above and check with the hotel about their cancellation policy and ask a girly mate/sister to come with you and have fun and if you are not having a great nite at the wedding, leave a little early and be good to yourself by getting to bed.

sollar

You could always give them a card with money in it as a wedding present and to cover the cost