Is it ever better? Does it get better?

chickenlicken

Hey, typical late night rant.

So - heres the story. I'm pregnant, he goes off gets his ex pregnant and never really is sorry. In fact a few days after it had all come out he retired to bed with six xanax and I progressively started to go down the pan in terms of my own mood. I couldn't understand - I though people were meant to say sorry. When his brother texted him after he'd walked away on us, the reply was in no uncertain terms to F:"$ off. Now are these the actions of a guilty man?

His only concenr one month after all this came out was the effect it had on his charachter - "what will people think of me now" and his only problem all along was that people knew what he had done.

He's an absolute headwreck. Later on I found out he'd also been with a Nurse he worked with in a Hospital A&E. When he said he didn't think they had sex he referred to the fact that "my balls didn't feel like it". Sounds like yet ANOTHER lie. There were about two other nights I remember him not coming home and getting exceptionally angry when I questioned him. Ya, over with his mates. Right.Then the violence began. Smashing my head off my own balcony door, holding me in a headlock on the couch, hands around my neck etc etc. He absolutely hated me.

He thinks I've been the problem, that I made his life hell. There have been no apologies of any meaning, and he's definitely devoid of empathy.

Anyhow. long story short he's moved away and in the last while Im' trying to change as much as possible of my contact details, just need to work on the blacklist on my e-mail at work. Funnily enough he was also in the last few months diagnosed a grade A narcissist, now who saw that coming!!!! All his mails blame me for EVERYTHING that happened and there is and never has been a real apology or make up for what happened.

My question is, will I find better? Or is this it then?

Faith

You will find better. It would be hard to find worse, frankly.

temply

Faith wrote: »

You will find better. It would be hard to find worse, frankly.

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He sounds like a nightmare

Oryx

It sounds like the only good thing that guy ever did for you was walk away.

Im sorry you went through such a horrible experience and that you now face pregnancy alone. I hope you have the support of people around you right now.

I just want to say, so you hear it from someone, even if you know it already:

The guy was a loser.
You did not make his life hell, you're just his scapegoat.
You are not to blame for how he treated you.
You are far, far better off with him gone.
Stop waiting for an apology that he is incapable of giving, and move on.

There are many many better men out there, who would treat you properly. Know that that is what you deserve.

chickenlicken

Everyone, thank you for ye're replies. I'm going to work on being positive and making things good for myself. We all deserve and will get happiness!!!!

Thanks

The Sweeper

Hope you make a change.

Violence appearing 2/3 of the way into the first post, after cheating and lying, not a good sign.

Violence #1 priority. Cheating and lying you'll recover from. Being choked to death is terminal.

dan_d

Christ OP.

It can only get better. Look at it that way.

I know many, many men (female engineer!) and trust me, there are some absolutely fantastic guys out there, who treat women so well.

You certainly deserve happiness and you will find it. Believe that. Be happy in yourself and some day the right guy will fall into your life. He may not be in the most obvious place, but he'll come along.

Best of luck. Think happy thoughts:):)