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Have a Crush on my Teacher!

  • 10-06-2011 9:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Guys,

    This isn't really a problem, I'm moreso looking for advice on how to proceed with a situation.

    I'm in a language school at the moment studying French and I have a huge crush on my teacher! I'm living in Paris, hence the reason I'm learning the language. My teacher is absolutely adorable! He's a really great teacher and I have the utmost respect for him.

    I'm not sure if he has a gf, he looks to be about 34 so he very well might have in which case it's tough sh*t for me!

    We have a night out next week so I was thinking of trying (subtely!!) to find out if he has a gf,mayeb I could just ask him straight up or I could ask who he lives with?

    The course finishes in 2 weeks so I was thinking of sending him an email once it's finished and asking if he'd like to go out for coffee..

    Do you think this is ok? I really like him and I hope he'll like me back!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    I think that's perfect if you ask him out for coffee! Especially since the course will be over, any potential stigma to a relationship between a teacher and student would be gone :) .

    A lot of the time in language classes (as I'm sure you know) people practice by asking each other questions back and forth. I'm taking Portuguese lessons now and sometimes we'll ask the teacher to answer the questions as well. If the opportunity comes to ask about anything that might give a clue or lead to further conversation on the topic ask about his personal life!

    Good luck! :)


  • #3
    unreggd
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    I think once the course is finished it should be fine

    You might as well ask, it'll only annoy you if ye dont


  • #4
    tawnyowl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 511 ✭✭✭tawnyowl


    I'd suggest not asking him - it would put him in a very awkward position most likely. After all, it might make it look like there was a conflict of interests.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    tawnyowl wrote: »
    I'd suggest not asking him - it would put him in a very awkward position most likely. After all, it might make it look like there was a conflict of interests.

    How on earth could asking him for coffee be perceived as a conflict of interests?!

    The only interest is that I'm interested in him! By saying 'Hey...I really enjoyed your classes, would you like to meet for a coffee/drink sometime' I don't see how that could mean I had a problem with him in any way!!


  • #6
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    You know what? Go for it. You might just be inspiring other ladies around here who'd like to have the cajones to do what you want to do.

    There are always reasons NOT to do something, and if we always listened to these, we'd never get anywhere.

    Just one thing...let us know how you get on!!!


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  • #7
    tawnyowl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 511 ✭✭✭tawnyowl


    Crushedice wrote: »
    How on earth could asking him for coffee be perceived as a conflict of interests?!

    The only interest is that I'm interested in him! By saying 'Hey...I really enjoyed your classes, would you like to meet for a coffee/drink sometime' I don't see how that could mean I had a problem with him in any way!!

    Part of you is hoping it might develop into something more. Relationships between lecturers and students (including former students) can be difficult. Even if the relationship is the result of your interest in him, it can leave him open to accusations of favouritism even if there isn''t any.

    Although your course is finishing up, the issues in this article can be relevant:
    http://www.stateuniversity.com/blog/permalink/Dating-your-Professor.html


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