gay friends?

Hamhide

It's been 4 years now since I came out (I'm 20 now) and so far I havnt got a single gay friend.now,I have friends,some guys,some girls and thats all well and good but it seems I just cant get that click out of someone who just isnt quite the same as myself.Is it so hard to find other queers to hang out with? maybe its just me but I have been looking and i've had nothing but fails so far Am I the only gay boy in the world who just wants a friend to play casltevania with on his NES and drink gallons of coke? surly not 0.o
I understand some people like the ''friends with benifits'' thing and thats cool but isnt it better to have a close friendship without messing it up with sex? Just to go on nights out with,hang out and go shopping in town and have coffee after,talk about guys we like,bfs..etc.. anybody else feel like this? whats your input?

thx for reading ^_^

apache

why don't you join a gay group? there are loads out there.

my two best friends in the whole world are male. one gay and one straight.
a close friendship is indeed special. someone you can be yourself and relax and rely on them and vice versa. that after all is what real friendship is about.
i wish you luck.

actually maybe that is why my closest friends are guys :eek:
i have to think about that.....

ninty9er

Hamhide wrote: »

Just to go on nights out with,hang out and go shopping in town and have coffee after,talk about guys we like,bfs..etc.. anybody else feel like this? whats your input?

A few straight female friends would easily fulfil all of that, however I wouldn't rule out straight male friends starting to fill the role as they become more mature. The difference between a heterosexual and homosexual bf/gf relationship is the same at the fundamental substantive level.

"wrecking my head", "the best I could ask for", "a rock of support" are phrases that don't really recognise sexuality. I can have those conversations with straight friends as easily as gay friends.

Don't seek partition and it's unlikely to come find you.

Hamhide

I appricate the input and the advice i really do but i have stright male friends and stright female friends and i can talk to them about anything but its just a special gay mate i'm looking for,not for reasons i cant talk with my other friends about but just on a level we would both understand

Chuchoter

I have no gay friends but to a large extent that could be my own fault. I'm not really out enough for it, other gay people (and my normal straight/kind of bisexual friend) get sick to death of me and my panicking about being outed, which is understandable! I would really like a couple of gay friends though who I actually see regularly, purely to talk relationships and stuff that my straight friends don't understand or I'm not willing to tell them, they're just really hard to come by.

Aoifums

I've done the whole looking for gay friends thing and it doesn't really work. I've a gang of mates who I'll go out with from time to time and while I enjoy chatting to them, they're not close friends. Both being gay (or bi) isn't the best foundation for a friendship. It might work for some people, it just didn't work for me.

I may be slightly bitter. I'm somehow not gay enough to hang out with this gang of gay people in my old school :rolleyes: But that kind of attitude sickens me so I wouldn't want to hang out with them much anyway.

Chuchoter

High five for not being gay enough for the gay crowd:rolleyes:

Aoifums

I'd like to know how they figured that one. I thought they just thought I was doing the whole straight girl "OMG I love gays!!!" thing. But then it turned out they knew I was gay the entire time. What lovely people :rolleyes:

And I wasn't that bad. Just friendly.

Coeurdepirate

Had a gay male friend for about a year and a half. Cut off contact with him about a year ago as he was a real 'scene queen'. Bitchy cúnt. Glad to be rid of him.
My best friends are incredible. About 50% male, 50% female. All straight.
I've also got a very good friend who I sadly don't see too often who is questioning. She was full sure she was lesbian for about a year but she's confused now.

Have to say though, I would die without my male friends. The girls are great but they're not really into those lazy days with pizza, COD and just pure piss take of each other.

Coeurdepirate

crayolastereo wrote: »

High five for not being gay enough for the gay crowd:rolleyes:

Oh em gee, but we're FABULOUS!

gavdown

ever thought of going to 'belong2' hock ups? its like 14-23 or something like that but might help ya.

also www.queerid.com do regular enough meet ups and its a forum place like this for lgbt . Other sites im sure do it too like gaire etc.

anyway i doubt your alone looking for a connection in this place

oh another idea just popped into my head. If your out in dublin there a magazine called GCN (gay community news) and they have a section with stuf to do. One of them is a mens personal development course for 6weeks to help you build confidence and meet other gay or bi lads in a friendly atmophere (its free too) google it or mail me if ya want any more info.

KnifeWRENCH

OP you have a NES? :eek: I wanna be your friend!

But yeah, I don't really have many LGBT friends. I have a few gay "acquaintances" that I'd see every so often but none I'm very close with. It used bother me a bit but now I'm just glad I have friends at all, never mind looking for particular types.

If you're in college, maybe join the LGBT society or something?

Coeurdepirate

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

OP you have a NES? :eek: I wanna be your friend!

But yeah, I don't really have many LGBT friends. I have a few gay "acquaintances" that I'd see every so often but none I'm very close with. It used bother me a bit but now I'm just glad I have friends at all, never mind looking for particular types.

If you're in college, maybe join the LGBT society or something?

Become a moderator again, your name looks weird when it's not bold >: (

KnifeWRENCH

Yeah the bold writing is definitely one of the best reasons to be a mod! :pac:

I needed a break though. Maybe some day in the future but for now I'm enjoying just being a regular user again. Less trolls to worry about.

Coeurdepirate

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

Yeah the bold writing is definitely one of the best reasons to be a mod! :pac:

I needed a break though. Maybe some day in the future but for now I'm enjoying just being a regular user again. Less trolls to worry about.

And also less lickarsery I'm sure :P

Rick_

I'll be your friend, but we're playing Mario World on my SNES and the Coke will be of the vanilla variety. :P

Chuchoter

Paddy C wrote: »

I'll be your friend, but we're playing Mario World on my SNES and the Coke will be of the vanilla variety. :P

YOU MONSTER!!!

:P

diddlybit

crayolastereo wrote: »

YOU MONSTER!!!

:P

My thoughts were simply eew.

diddlybit

Paddy C, I think that your horrendous taste in beverages can be forgiven as you have excellent taste in video games.

Rick_

You don't like vanilla Coke? Blasphemy!

Oh, and I painted my SNES too so it looks all shiny and new. Dunno if I could be bothered painting the games too to match!

ninty9er

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

Oh em gee, but we're FABULOUS!

:pac::cool:

WatchOut

I'm sort of the same. I don't really have any gay friends (none that I'm close with, I have acquaintances). I'm hoping it's just cos I live in a small town and there aren't that many gay people my age (or any age for that matter)...Can't wait for college!

Hamhide

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

And also less lickarsery I'm sure :P

haters gonna hate lol

Hamhide

if anyone would like to be my gay bff gimmie a shout. no vinalla coke lovers though, the world can do without people like that

Rick_

As if feeling an outcast for my sexuality wasn't enough, now I also face it for my choice in beverage.

Daith

I really would recommend that you join BelongTo or look at QueerID. I know there's probably a fair few meeting up for Pride and it would be a good opportunity to meet people even if you dont click as friends. But you wont know until you try.

Namechecking Castlevania alone gives props in my book anyway

tipplad19

i am the same would love some gay mates

tipplad19

i feel the same people

Platinum2010

Paddy C wrote: »

As if feeling an outcast for my sexuality wasn't enough, now I also face it for my choice in beverage.

KnifeWRENCH

Paddy C wrote: »

As if feeling an outcast for my sexuality wasn't enough, now I also face it for my choice in beverage.

And damn right too!
I can tolerate gayness, but vanilla coke is just a step too far. :pac:
Eugh......

tipplad19

no vanilla coke i lovly

Platinum2010

tipplad19 wrote: »

vanilla coke

mmmmmmmmmmm

tipplad19

Platinum2010 wrote: »

mmmmmmmmmmm

how r u??

Platinum2010

random lol

jim-jam

Paddy C wrote: »

As if feeling an outcast for my sexuality wasn't enough, now I also face it for my choice in beverage.

I look forward to the inaugural Vanilla Pride parade next year!

plein de force

I'm the same really
I have straight friends who i absolutely love and couldn't imagine life without but i don't have any gay friends i'm that close with which would be nice, talking about boys with female friends is grand but i'd like to do it with a gay male friend, sounds silly i know but whatever.
Hopefully make some gay friends in college when i (hopefully) start in september. And if you're 20 OP, assuming you might be in college you could join the LGBT soc