I want a baby!

Cevans

Hi

I just wanted to ask you all a quick question. Recently , especially the last two months i really want to try for a baby. Im 29 in a long term relationship and just got engaged in April.

What i wanted to ask was if anyone else just had it hit them like a bolt out of the blue? I was perfectly happy and always wanted kids but i knew that there would be plenty of time for it in the future. Then all of a sudden this hit me and i cant think of anything else. I want to try now everything seems so perferct.

My OH is brilliant and we have discussed trying and hes not against the idea but i think he might need a bit of time to get used to the idea. I kinda sprung it on him all of a sudden- purely because it sprung up in my head all of a sudden and now it wont go away!

im just amazed at how strong of an urge it is- and now i cant go anywhere without cooing over baby clothes and spotting bumps!!

Was it the same for all of you? Good luck to everyone trying... sending babydust to all of you!!:)

Neyite

I dont really remember - My earliest "I want a baby" was when I was 27 or 28. I was in a relationship that was on its last legs, and I got the broody bug. I remember being a bit panicky that if this relationship didnt last I would lose my chance, but I also deep down knew that I didnt want to bring a child into that mess. It was not just about being a mother - I wanted to be the best mother I could be, and that meant picking a brilliant dad, and that was not my ex at all.

Once this current relationship got serious, I knew it was only a matter of time, and had a little meltdown at age 33 with himself worried that my 'clock' was ticking and we were not married or engaged or anything. He thought about it for a week and then told me he wanted us to start trying.

Welcome to the world of wacky hormones:D. Even if you are not trying right away, you can still join us in the chat thread - lots of us have learnd a lot from each other there. Its like biology class sometimes!

Congrats on your engagement, and good luck with your cluckyness

xxtattyberxx

Im actually going through this at the moment and its absolutly heart crushing, as you said hits you like bolt out of the blue.

Unfort Im not in a great, stable relationship, and it be the ast thing hed ever want. I already have a son and never thnought Id wanting to be adding to it.

I visited the docs and he has put it down to hormones, but people that Ive spoke to say woman hit and age and pine for a baby, I dont know if this is true or not, in my case my urge is breaking me down slowly but surely.

Isnt it amazing as you said you can now spot baby bumps, its the ultimate tease

Neyite

xxtattyberxx wrote: »

Isnt it amazing as you said you can now spot baby bumps, its the ultimate tease

They are EVERYWHERE :eek:

xxtattyberxx

Neyite wrote: »

They are EVERYWHERE :eek:

Has to be something in the water, mind you was a very COLD winter, these woman were obviuosly kept warm....

I know men try compare getting kicked in the balls to labour pain, maaaan they have no clue, the hormones alone would knock them on their asses

iguana

Yup it can just hit all of a sudden and hit hard. I first got it when I was 25, I had a dream one night that I was giving birth and when I woke up, just as the baby was handed to me, I was so happy and fulfilled. Then I realised it was dream and felt so empty. I really felt like a part of me was missing and I kept unconsciously reaching for my baby for several days, afterward. I eventually managed to squash the feeling as we were planning to emigrate the following summer.

Though with retrospect I really, really wish I hadn't as shortly after we started trying 4 years later, my husband got very ill and trying again was off the cards for nearly 3 years. It's all too easy to take our health and fertility for granted when we are younger and we certainly don't think about how difficult getting and staying pregnant can be as we age. I had a miscarriage the first time we tried when I was 29, and 3 years of not being able to try following it, added and extra hellish dimension to what was an awful time anyway.

Obviously people need to wait until they are ready and are with the right partner. But don't let things that would be inconsequential in the long-run make you wait if having children is a priority.

caprilicious

Cliched as it sounds, the minute the wedding ring went on my finger it was like this massive urge to get pregnant straight away.

Before the wedding we had discussed starting a family, but I hadn't expected to feel such an overwhelming urge to start so soon!

We're trying (& trying & trying :rolleyes:) almost a year now for no. 2.
Its mad, its not as simple as just wanting something, its like an overwhelming hormone driven urge to get pregnant.

Mink

I was just thinking today that I wanted to write a post just like yours OP. I'm 29 also, no kids, married ages but getting broodier & broodier over the past 2 years or so.

I said to the OH last autumn that I wanted to start trying in a years time as we'd hmm'd & haw'd about it for years. When we got married we said we'd start when we're in our late twenties. Well he's past that & I'm in my last late twenties year!

I too feel I've been getting more and more obsessed with it and I really notice pregnant women & new babies. I'm hoping there is a 3rd series of One Born Every Minute, found it invaluable & tear inducing.

I haven't really told anyone how broody I am apart from my sisters, I don't even say it to the OH as I'd feel I'd be pressurising him. For some reason I feel a bit foolish bringing it up - don't know why. I guess I want him to bring it up more & be excited about it & be behind the whole thing. I have a slight fear of me complaining about pregnancy discomfort or late nights with the newborn & him saying "well, tough, this is what you wanted". Though I don't think he would.

Anyway, I will be bringing it up this autumn with him & just going to go for the plunge, he's had a year to prepare himself plus he told my mother in law at the time that I'd given him an ultimatum. So he's only himself to blame when she starts asking where the big announcement is at come autumn!!

At the end of the day we're totally committed to each other & have a great relationship. Yes we're financially all over the place but it's settling out. I don't want to leave it any longer before we start trying as it could be ages before I fall pregnant!

I hope you get preggers soon OP as it will encourage me more!

Moonbeam

You are hitting 30,that has a tendency to make people panic slightly especially women:)
I will be 30 next year and am suddenly worried about things that I did not care about in my 30's.

xxtattyberxx

so would this be a more physological thing or hormone, im pretty sure my hormones are stable enough :rolleyes: but my gp is adament its hormones, hes a male go figure

Mink

I don't think it's hormonal. I've been on the pill for yonks so my hormones are the same, but the urge to have a baby just hit me at a certain time in my life I guess

Oral Slang

I was broody from mid twenties, but my o/h didn't even want kids. Gave him an ultimatum - either we have kids at some stage or it just won't work. Thankfully he came round, but didn't want them there & then.

We started trying 2 years ago, thankfully as I was almost 32 at this stage and starting to panic, but it took 1.5 years of trying before we got where we are - I'm 5 months pregnant now and almost 34.

Don't keep putting it off, because unfortunately for a lot of people it doesn't happen overnight. There can be so much stress involved, so the earlier you start, the more time you have for it to work.

Cevans

Hi all, Sorry i havent replied sooner! Thanks you all for your replies it really helps to know that it was natural to feel like this. OH came around to the idea very quickly and is now as excited as me to start trying - so guess it all starts here!!

Neyite

Cevans wrote: »

Hi all, Sorry i havent replied sooner! Thanks you all for your replies it really helps to know that it was natural to feel like this. OH came around to the idea very quickly and is now as excited as me to start trying - so guess it all starts here!!

It's exciting, is'nt it! The very first thing you need to do is start taking folic acid. Its cheap and non prescription, so no excuses!:p There are prenatal vitamins that you both can take, but for the women my fertility specialist was of the opinion that folic acid was all you need.

There is a great chat thread at the top of the forum, where we all congregate and swap tips /support whatever, whatever questions you may have, someone there will be able to give you tips.

Mink

Cevans wrote: »

Hi all, Sorry i havent replied sooner! Thanks you all for your replies it really helps to know that it was natural to feel like this. OH came around to the idea very quickly and is now as excited as me to start trying - so guess it all starts here!!

Cool! This thread inspired me to bring the subject back up with my OH & I want to start trying from August on (well now really if I'm honest) so we came to a compromise of beginning starting some time between August & next spring but the deadline to come off the pill is end of Feb. These are totally arbitrary dates but finally have decided what we are doing. I got him sort of excited about it so I think he'll come around to the starting in August idea!

So hopefully I'll be joining these threads as an active member in the next few months.

Neyite

Mink wrote: »

Cool! This thread inspired me to bring the subject back up with my OH & I want to start trying from August on (well now really if I'm honest) so we came to a compromise of beginning starting some time between August & next spring but the deadline to come off the pill is end of Feb. These are totally arbitrary dates but finally have decided what we are doing. I got him sort of excited about it so I think he'll come around to the starting in August idea!

So hopefully I'll be joining these threads as an active member in the next few months.

Congrats to you too! You can still hang around here though - you will find that even if you are just getting your body ready for trying (and him too!) that there is a lot you can do in the meantime. Folic Acid anyway - you dont need to be trying to take it, it gives ya nice hair and stronger nails too, so thats an excuse to take it up now.

Sparkles78

So glad I found this thread as this sounds like me all over, Im 33 and am starting to worry that I am getting way too old, I already have an 11 year old but would love another one... or two :rolleyes: And yes everywhere I go women are either pregnant or are wheeling around tiny newborns
We've been trying since last June though so am starting to get a bit worried as its a year now and nothing

broody boardie

Yay, we've decided to start TTC when I finish the pill this month. Am sooo broody. Have been browsing here for a while now so am looking forward to being able to start commenting. I know it might still take a while for anything to happen but am getting excited now.

caprilicious

The very best if luck Broody Boardie, hopefully you'll get your positive result soon
Good time to start taking your folic acid & omega in preparation

Mink

Been taking my folic acid past few weeks now:D

Pretty much waiting on sorting out a couple of medical issues before starting to TTC, one of them being a heart thing so it would be important.
Hope to start end of August.

Lost one of my pills (contraceptive) last night when I dropped it by accident, have never lost one in 10yrs of taking them, I'm taking that as a sign

Bubblegums

Where do I go to cry after reading all this? 38 and pretty sure I'm going to end up childless and terrified I'd have a deformed baby if I did get pregnant at my age eventually

Mink

Bubblegums wrote: »

Where do I go to cry after reading all this? 38 and pretty sure I'm going to end up childless and terrified I'd have a deformed baby if I did get pregnant at my age eventually

Don't worry about it too much. I know an awful lot of ladies aged 36-42 who got preggers fairly easily (some in a month or two, some in a year or two) & with healthy babies. Don't let the idea of statistics scare you, just start trying!

girlygirl1989

Cevans wrote: »

Hi

I just wanted to ask you all a quick question. Recently , especially the last two months i really want to try for a baby. Im 29 in a long term relationship and just got engaged in April.

What i wanted to ask was if anyone else just had it hit them like a bolt out of the blue? I was perfectly happy and always wanted kids but i knew that there would be plenty of time for it in the future. Then all of a sudden this hit me and i cant think of anything else. I want to try now everything seems so perferct.

My OH is brilliant and we have discussed trying and hes not against the idea but i think he might need a bit of time to get used to the idea. I kinda sprung it on him all of a sudden- purely because it sprung up in my head all of a sudden and now it wont go away!

im just amazed at how strong of an urge it is- and now i cant go anywhere without cooing over baby clothes and spotting bumps!!

Was it the same for all of you? Good luck to everyone trying... sending babydust to all of you!!:)

Hi I am the exact same Babies and pregnant women everywhere!

I recently suffered a miscarriage which was devastating and has left me with a longing for a baby! its so bad but I know I should give myself a break first!!

Babydust to everyone xxx

okiss

to bubblegum

This is a message of hope.

This couple met in 2000 and got married in 2002. They did not try for a baby for a while due to different things. They tried and she had a miscarriage.
Her husband then had health problems. They were trying and nothing was happening so they went to the galway clinic and she had another miscarriage.
They took a brake for a while and then had one ivf treatment.
I recently went to this baby christening and I have never seen a happier couple in my life.
To anyone out there who thinks it will never happen. Some times you need to relax and take a brake from trying to have a baby for things to happen.

catch me if you can

Happened to me at 28. Up until then I was happy out , married 2 years and in no rush.
one day i saw a pregnant woman on one of the soaps, sad i know.
and it just hit me , the instinct kicked in very suddenly.
so it can happen like that. one year of trying and 1 miscarriage later and i had my daughter

LegacyUser

hi all, I am almost 30 and I feel like the OP.

The urge gets worse after my period, I guess it's when i'm ovulating. But I will wait until i have a steady job and hopefully a relationship but I have to say that if by a certain age it all has not clicked, I won't wait anymore.

I had a stillbirth when I was 27 it destroyed me and my relationship anyway, so things happen, so why wait to make a perfect plan.

irishgal2012

Hi all,

I know this thread is old but I feel exactly like the OP, it hit me about a year and a half ago, just after I turned 26, I told my boyfriend (now my husband) and he felt the same, although was worried we'd never afford it etc, so we said we'd wait until christmas and decide then, but in the mean time my dad got very ill and unfortunately passed away so that stopped us thinking about it for a while. It also made us realise life is too short to wait around, just before christmas we got engaged and so decided to wait until after the wedding to try as we'd be stressed enough planning the wedding! We got married this summer and i came off the pill straight away-I was told to wait 3 months to start properly trying as my body needs time to readjust so we're taking it easy for now, just letting nature take its course...but its on my mind all the time! My husband still worries about money but I dont want to wait-if we think like that we could be waiting forever! My parents hadnt a lot when i was growing up but i did have a loving family and a roof over my head and food on the table and thats all that mattered in the long run!

I cant wait to be a mammy!! Just hope and pray every day that I will be some day!

barbiegirl

I've always wanted to be a mum. The sensible part made me wait until I found the right man, thank God. We met when I was 29, moved in together 18 months later, got engaged and I came off the pill at 3 years, and married and started trying the following year. We've now been trying for 3 years!!!
It's terrible how much I want to hold my own little baba and sometimes it just sneaks up on me, as I'm sure it does him. We have 3 little seeds in heaven, and will just keep trying That can be a fun part anyway

irishgal2012

My heart goes out to you barbiegirl...losing 3 must have been so awful...ill say a little prayer for you that this month will be your month

Babydust ****

jessie86

iguana wrote: »

Yup it can just hit all of a sudden and hit hard. I first got it when I was 25, I had a dream one night that I was giving birth and when I woke up, just as the baby was handed to me, I was so happy and fulfilled. Then I realised it was dream and felt so empty. I really felt like a part of me was missing and I kept unconsciously reaching for my baby for several days, afterward. I eventually managed to squash the feeling as we were planning to emigrate the following summer.

Though with retrospect I really, really wish I hadn't as shortly after we started trying 4 years later, my husband got very ill and trying again was off the cards for nearly 3 years. It's all too easy to take our health and fertility for granted when we are younger and we certainly don't think about how difficult getting and staying pregnant can be as we age. I had a miscarriage the first time we tried when I was 29, and 3 years of not being able to try following it, added and extra hellish dimension to what was an awful time anyway.

Obviously people need to wait until they are ready and are with the right partner. But don't let things that would be inconsequential in the long-run make you wait if having children is a priority.

I was reading through all the posts and and had to stop and post back to this..
You couldn't have hit the nail harder on the head!! You are so right regarding not letting things that would be inconsequential in the long run get in the way!!!
I too had that "bolt" hit me, I've already a 4 year old and all of a sudden I am gooing and gaaing over every baby, pregnancy and can't bare to look at baby things without getting extremellllly broody!!

xxx

Penny Dreadful

Mink wrote: »

Been taking my folic acid past few weeks now:D

Pretty much waiting on sorting out a couple of medical issues before starting to TTC, one of them being a heart thing so it would be important.
Hope to start end of August.

Lost one of my pills (contraceptive) last night when I dropped it by accident, have never lost one in 10yrs of taking them, I'm taking that as a sign

I know what you mean. I've been on the Pill since I was 20 (14 years now!!) and have always and forever been so careful.
I'm in a fantastic relationship now with a wonderful fantastic guy who wants the same stuff as me in life i.e. each other and a family. We've spoken about things and have agreed to get married next year (no official announcement yet so he is still my boyfriend;)) and that my current prescription of my Pill is the last one, it finishes in February next year.
I've been so careful about taking my Pill, never late, always good about extra precautions when sick, and yet over the last 2 months, I've forgotten to take it about 5 different times and found myself racing home from work to make sure I get to take it within the 12 hour time frame.
Its funny, feels like my eggs are begging to get out and get some action at long last.
Fingers crossed for all the ladies here that we get what we so long for.