wedding gift a week or two after the wedding day?

gudbuzz

Hi,
Im going to a wedding next week and between dress, accommodation and drinks am not sure I can afford their wedding gift until pay day a week or two later. Will it look really bad if I attend without a gift on the day? I know they'll be really busy on the day itself but its a full weekend affair and I'm afraid it would be noticed by the end. Should I bring a card and say something like 'present to follow!' or is that kind of crude too?!
help!

Otis Driftwood

Not a bit of it.

If its an actual present as opposed to money you can just say that you didnt want to have to lug it round all day and then pass it to them to lug around.

gudbuzz

yea thats a good idea actually as its a heavy enough a3 size frame. I suppose what im asking really is should I apologise and say sorry you will get a present soon or should I just say nada?:o

StillWaters

Say nada. Common enough to give gifts after the wedding, and its something nice for the couple to open after the honeymoon.

Neyite

I think that wedding ettiquite suggests that you have up to 6 months or so after the wedding to give a gift.

They wont notice on the day - any cards/gifts are usually given to ushers/best man to put in a safe place for them, and they will probably be on a honeymoon for a few weeks so you have plenty of time to pop around when they get back and give them your gift.

Dont say anything to them on the day. No need. They wont be writing out their thankyou cards for weeks and weeks yet.

Ken.

Tell them your getting the present engraved with their name and the date of the wedding and that theirs a hold up with the engraver.Down side to this is you have to then go get it engraved

LilMissCiara

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Tell them your getting the present engraved with their name and the date of the wedding and that theirs a hold up with the engraver.Down side to this is you have to then go get it engraved

Make no excuses! Say nothing and just call round in 3 or 4 weeks time.

whatdoicare

Don't worry about it- loads of guests gave us presents ages after we got hitched (in fact I'm married a year and received a pressie there last week at that guests own wedding haha)
If you really want put a quick ps "I must call up after yr back from honeymoon with yr gift" on the wedding card but it's not required at all.

finbarrk

Same as that. No hurry with it.

qwerty13

Jeez, my worst is 4 years later! I generally just buy a really decent present a few months later - or when I can afford it - and I don't think anyone has ever been upset!

Sure most people live together beforehand these days - they're hardly waiting on the wedding pressie! I think buy whatever you can afford, whenever you can afford it. I couldn't begin to make a pressie myself - but I've been at weddings where someone has done that and it is always the pressie that everyone knows about/is appreciated most.

omahaid

Nah, just bring the card. Me and the wife got married over a year ago and got a wedding gift from her sister only last week

claireeney

Who's going to walk up to you and say; "where's your present??!" No one. They won't even notice. Say nothing and enjoy the wedding!!! It's not like they're going to sit down the next day and see who gave them things and who didn't. They'll be just delighted that you could make their big day!