Dating can be such a let down!!

LegacyUser

So ive been single over a year now and whilst it took me a good 6 months to be able to move on from the breakup ive been enjoying the single life, have been with a good few women and have had lots of one night stands, I didnt want to get into a relationship, but in the last few months ive had my heart set on meeting someone to get into a relationship with, So I meet this great girl who i'm so attracted to, we went on about 4 dates and had a great time until one night she tells me the chemistry just isnt there, i'll admit i was a bit nervous at times with her because i really liked her(i cant remember ever been that nervous) she kept saying how much she really liked me but that there was just something missing, I feel so down at the moment, its hit me hard and i know it shouldnt, for some reason now ive been thinking alot about my ex alot and we split over a year ago, whats going on in my head? anyone every experience this, ive so depressed about this

Alter-Ego

All I can say is take it on the chin. I'm in the exact same boat myself but I try not to let any rejection bother me, its all part of the dating game which i'm having a lot of fun in since i came out of a 4 year relationship.

Having your heart set on meeting someone to get into a relationship can be a bad thing as you may be likely to get involved with someone romantically for the sake of it. Take it easy and the right "one" will come along.

Are you a member of or have you considered joining any dating sites?

LegacyUser

I suppose its just the first time in over a year id actually like to meet someone, as i've said ive had a good time being single over the last year.

I dont necessarily have my heart set on meeting someone for a relationship its just I really liked this girl and to be told the chemistry just isnt there was a real let down as ive never heard those words in my life so i suppose i just took the rejection a little hard.

Might give the online dating a go as i always end up meeting girls when lots of drink is taken, any good sites? thanks

beks101

Hells yeah it can be OP. It can downright suck, especially the rejection part - but everyone, and I mean everyone goes through it. The only way to avoid it is to hermatise yourself and commit to a life alone!

I know it's not exactly heart warming to hear what you heard, but at least the girl was honest and didn't string you along or play you and allow you to lose trust in women and the whole dating process. She just expressed how she felt, which unfortunately didn't corroborate your feelings, but that's just the way things go sometimes. You can't and won't win them all, but it doesn't take away from you as a person, it just means that she's not the right one for you after all. There's plenty of women out there who would snap you up, you just have to give yourself a few days to get over this and get back there on the scene. And honestly, you'll surprise yourself at how quickly you'll get over this rejection - I've been there too, thought I'd never date again and within a week could barely remember his name!

Good luck!