Heads fried :(

LegacyUser

Ok heres the story. I've been seeing this fella for nearly 9 months and it was a mess from the very start. (He had a girlfriend and never told me, and I know I should have ended it when I found out but I didn't.
They broke up a few months ago and we continued to see each other. I've told him exactly how I feel about him and all he has said is that he can never give me all that he gave his ex and that we could never trust each other because of what he done to his girlfriend and because I was in college (he's 6 years older than me). I told him I couldn't continue seeing him as I was hurt. He also seems to enjoy telling me about girls he has been with and texting.
We haven't met up but we have been texting and ringing (some of the times the texts getting a bit hot).
We were supposed to meet up soon but I've told him I can't because I'm tired of feeling second best to the other girls in his life. When I told him this he got moody saying I was being dramatic. To make this worse I feel like I have no one to talk to because alot of my friends are from college and we've gone our seperate ways for the summer and my friends from home that I would usually talk to about this stuff are all travelling for the summer.
I know I should just cut contact with him but it's not that easy for me to do but I don't know what to do. My heads just fried from thinking about it and I just don't know what to do. And any fellas that show me any interest I just brush off because of him.
Sorry just needed to rant.

Miss Fluff

poisedprincess wrote: »

I know I should just cut contact with him but it's not that easy for me to do

It's the only way to be honest. No it mightn't be easy for you but the only other alternative is for you to continue to facilitate this a$$hole's behaviour.

Why you would want to hang around for whatever miniscule pieces of attention he gives you is beyond me, your self-esteem is obviously non-existent.

Just cut him loose and go and busy yourself for the summer rather than hanging around hoping he might call you for a shag at some stage. That's clearly all you are to him.

gargleblaster

poisedprincess wrote: »

And any fellas that show me any interest I just brush off because of him.

Stop doing that. It's very likely that they're much nicer than this pig you've somehow built up in your head. You're hurting yourself by doing it, if you're not a masochist and doing this to yourself for that reason, then please stop. You deserve to be happy.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replys.

I guess the only way is definately cut contact for good. How can i go about that though? Like I said alot of my friends are away or else gone home for the summer and I won't get to see them as often. It feels like he's the ony one I have that I can talk to lately.

greengiant09

like others have said, this guy is a user....and a loser. he's just string you along. if you want your head to continue to be fried....then keep seeing him....if you don't, then tell him it's over....delete his number and avoid and ignore all future contact.

it's really that simple. obviously it will be difficult at the start but you'll get through....it will get easier and you will move on....

Taltos

I know everyone is calling this guy a user or a loser - and while I would not disagree at least he has been honest with you...

So - why are you still with him?
He clearly sees you as nothing more than a shag and has zero respect for you - otherwise why flaunt being so much of a man-whore?

OP - you clearly know what you have to do here - the bigger question is why haven't you????

Neyite

It sounds like a power trip for him - he distances himself then when you are ready to call it a day he heats up the contact drawing you back in to him. He is doing this purely for him, and his massive ego. He sounds like he gets off on how much he gets to manipulate your feelings.

You know what to do - you know you deserve someone kind. This guy is far from it. So walk away, dont bother giving him a big explanation - just tell him that you are too good for him and his bullsh!t. Because you are.

IrishEyes19

Hey, OP, do you mean you've never met up, or havent met up since you told him you cant keep in contact??

OP, I dont want to hurt you at all, but this guy has no respect for you, talking about other girls, cheating on his then girlfriend, and keeping something going when he knows you want more

But you have to take responsibility also for your own pain. We are all guilty of trying to fix lost causes but this guy isnt the guy for you, the guy for you will bend over backwards to make you want to commit to him, he will never talk about other women because he knows thats just plain hurtful and cheating is just a no no. So do yourself some favours and delete delete delete...all contact with him. I assure you, it is the hardest and most positive thing you will do, and each day you get that little bit stronger too.

booboo88

seriously, he likes to tell you about girls he's been with? hes just trying to get a reaction, change your number if you have to its easier in long run

Mc Kenzie

This guy sounds like an ass.i really hope you cut ties with him. i know it seems hard to do, but i made mistakes like that when i was younger and trust me it will only hurt worse if you let it go on.

try and call your freinds for a chat or chat to members of your family eg sister cousin.

dont waste your time and look after your own feelings. gosh i hate these type a fellas make me angry, grrrrr:mad: