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what does being in love mean?

  • 07-06-2011 5:52pm
    #1
    janeymack1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭janeymack1


    how do you know when you're "in love"?
    i have a boyfriend and i think i love him but how do i know if i'm in love? i'm scared
    also what are the signs that a guy is in love? i wanna know if my boyfriend is in love...


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  • #2
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    If you have to ask, you're not in love.

    And you can't tell if a person loves you or not. Everyone reacts differently to love.


  • #3
    Sinfonia
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,854 ✭✭✭Sinfonia


    On a pragmatic level, "Love" is just a concept that many claim to feel, including myself, although I don't/can't really put a strong definition on it.
    If I had to, I guess I'd measure it by the feeling that you'd pretty much defend the person to the death, do anything for them, worry strongly about their safety etc. etc. The way you might with family and close friends, as well as partners.
    From what I can tell, to be "in love with" someone, rather than merely "loving" them, is that not only do you love them, you're also sexually attracted to them.


  • #4
    Elle Collins
    Closed Accounts Posts: 681 ✭✭✭Elle Collins


    The older I get the more I realise romantic love is an extreme form of insanity and stupidity combined.


  • #5
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    janeymack1 wrote: »
    how do you know when you're "in love"?
    i have a boyfriend and i think i love him but how do i know if i'm in love? i'm scared
    also what are the signs that a guy is in love? i wanna know if my boyfriend is in love...

    Is this the BF who borrows money off you and doesn't give it back? The one you were afraid to ask? If so, it seems like you two have massive communication issues from your multiple posts on the issue. You should be able to talk about your feelings with one another if in a secure and stable relationship.


  • #6
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,505 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    To be honest it sounds more like you want to be in love rather than you are in love.

    I don't completely agree with the "when you know, you KNOW" side of things, as very often it's built up to such a huge thing that people can't be sure that their emotions stand up to the colossal expectations they're given. But you certainly can never know if your boyfriend loves you, just take him at his word if he says it, and don't be in such a rush to hear it.

    The reason I would think that you might just really want to be in love is that really, it's something that happens, not something you plan/expect/ask people for confirmation on. You might not know it straight away but over time you'll come to know where you stand. I would definitely say that a good sign that you're in love is that you wont be so concerned about whether you're in love or not, it will just be there and you'll just be happy. As nice as it is to be told that someone loves you, ultimately, when it happens there wont be any vital need to wrap words around it.


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  • #7
    Gianluca Lively Reforestation
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Gianluca Lively Reforestation


    Miss Fluff wrote: »
    Is this the BF who borrows money off you and doesn't give it back? The one you were afraid to ask? If so, it seems like you two have massive communication issues from your multiple posts on the issue. You should be able to talk about your feelings with one another if in a secure and stable relationship.

    I was wondering where I recognised the name

    I agree with the post


  • #8
    Benincasa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 131 ✭✭Benincasa


    I don't personally believe in this concept of being "in love". Yes, lot's of people talk about it and fantasise about it, but that doesn't make it real.

    From what I can see, being "in love" tends to equate to being infatuated with somebody; having tingly feelings or butterflies in your stomach etc etc. That is not love. That is a feeling which will change with your hormones, the weather, your appetite etc...

    Loving somebody means putting them first. Having a desire for their well being and a willingness to sacrifice yourself for them. And doing all of this whether it makes you feel good or not.

    Yes, romantic love it is often accompanied by nice feelings and sexual attraction. But don't confuse the feelings with love, and definitely forget this concept of being "in love".


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