Friendship boundaries

LegacyUser

Hi guys!

I really want advice on a male friend of mine. We met through a mutual group of friends in college and immediately we hit it off. I was already with somebody (but he wasn't very nice lets just say!) but we began a casual fling for a few weeks.
He finished it with me because he said 'that he was made to think about what we were doing'. I never pursued what he meant by this as we became a lot closer after we stopped. There was never any awkwardness and we literally slag each other mercilessly about what happened between us.
My dilemma is that I feel like maybe we've gotten too close. We're living in different counties during the summer but he still texts me everyday and we text for hours. We're very flirty with one another and everyone gets mad at us for how much we ignore everyone when we're together. He constantly cuddles me and touches me and I really like him....when I was having a crappy time in the last couple of months, he was the only person that could make me feel better.
So how do I figure out if he really does like me or if its all in my head? I want to take the chance of telling him how I feel but it would make things so awkward so I really need advice on how to suss it out without him realising!!!

Sorry for the rambling.....im just so confused with the situation!

lace

From what you've written here it seems that your friendship is fairly solid and things haven't been awkward between ye before. There doesn't seem to be any harm in bringing it up with him, as long as it's in a very casual manner. If he doesn't see it as a big deal or a make or break situation for your friendship then he should feel comfortable telling you how he really feels. Be warned though - you may not get the answer you'd like. Think carefully before letting him know. Check out his signals etc. and be sure you're ready to hear his answer. Good Luck!

I am a friend

aaaaaargh!:( wrote: »

we began a casual fling for a few weeks.

aaaaaargh!:( wrote: »

He finished it with me

Hon, he had his chance... He finished with you and no matter that he is doing now, he is still not begging you to get back with him.

Are you sleeping with him?

fungun

did he finish with you because it was just casual or because he didnt want to go out with you?

i know you say you didnt pursue him on this but this is really the crux of it. Sounds like either (a) he doesnt want to go out with you or (b) he didnt want 'just' a casual thing.

Hard to tel from your post which is true....and not sure do you yourself know

Alter-Ego

I am a friend wrote: »

Hon, he had his chance... He finished with you and no matter that he is doing now, he is still not begging you to get back with him.

Are you sleeping with him?

And she's not begging him to get back with her, according to the OP they're still good friends, not scorned lovers.

There's a chance that he's in the exact boat as her and that he backed out of the casual fling to avoid being the rebound guy and maintain the friendship. Of course its hard to judge.

I agree with what lace said, bring it up casually, but do it face to face and not over txt etc...