Lead a boring and depressing life

budweiser90

I have been leading such a boring life, well probably 90% of my life. I am 21 years old and when I'm not in the gym or out with my friends(which is nearly once every 3 weeks) I just laze around doing nothing.

On the positive side I am going away on J1 with some friends for the summer, but I really don't want to come back and go back to my boring lifestyle.

There is so much stuff I want to do like take up a sport, try charity work, get a job, make new friends, go to the gym a lot lot more etc.
I just find it extremely difficult to push myself. I always procrastinate with everything. Even just small tasks like cleaning my room. I just waste most of my day doing nothing. I just wish I could get into a regular routine, where I wake up early and go to bed at a reasonable hour. Please Help!

gypsy_rose

Then do those things so! Noone else is going to do them for you. In this situation, noone can help you but yourself, so just go out and do it.

Knasher

I can only talk from my personal experience, of which I have a lot of with procrastination, so here it is for what its worth. I think you are looking too far ahead, you see all the things you want to do and it forms an almost insurmountable hill, so rather that attempt them and risk failure you procrastinate.

So rather than attempt them all at once (or even consider them) I'd take just one and focus on that. Sports is probably an easy one to start on as its quite easy to get into a routine with it. It will quickly get to a stage where whatever sport you chose will become a part of your routine and then you can work on another of your goals.

No idea how to get into a normal sleeping pattern, so if you figure that one out let me know:).

Scrappychimow

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LegacyUser

I would say that I am going through something similar. What one poster said before is very true, that you do procrastinate when you are not exactly willing to do something.

I'm in a situation where I realise I don't have many close friends. I do meet up with people, but the problem is I don't take the initiative to organise stuff and let people into my life, so to speak. What I'm trying to say is maybe you need to take the initiative to meet up with people and do stuff. Especially if you are saying you are bored and only meet up with people every three weeks. Although I don't know you so maybe what I am saying is not exactly fair. I just know, from my own experience ('being bullied'), that I had negative thoughts such as, 'Why should I bother...so-and-so probably don't like me anyway' (A silly way of thinking, but it can happen)

At the same time, that's not going to solve problems overnight. You can also feel bored in people's mind, especially if they are not liked-minded or have interests in common. This can happen.

Like you, I'm going abroad soon. I would say this to you: take it as a great opportunity to get to know yourself better. That's what I plan to do. The fact I'm going alone and that nobody from home is going gives me the freedom to realise a lot about myself, and maybe to get a bit more confidence. I find myself especially in a rut at home, since I live in a complex family situation that is going through separation. Since you're going to the U.S., that will be something of an experience. You'll probably get to try new experiences and opportunities that you never would think of back home.

All the best!

Peanut2011

OP, the only person that can change all that is YOU!

From your post it seems you would want to do all those things if someone was to push you to do them. I always say "If there is a will, there is a way!"

Now get up of your bum and go do those things!