Wanted a bi experience instead was brought into a threesome?

Mc Kenzie

To any one who reads, im not trying to be crude, rude or any of the like im just looking for your opinions.
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Im a female straight but i was curiose to be with a girl. i met a girl online, i was abit dubiouse but she was lovely.got on well. she told me she had a boyfreind and she was bi.,it wasnt really indicated clearly wat the situation would be with her bf. i kinda assumed hed watch or something....
........Thing is i only met her and text her alone, then i went over 4 dinner i met boyfriend for first time.and realised he wud be part of it. I wasnt attracted to him at all,and i felt like i had no choice to be with the fella aswell., when i tried to explain to the girl,it was an offence to her and she said she didnt realise her bf was a dealbreaker. ...i dont understand.how cud she jus expect me be with him too regardless if i was attracted or not.:rolleyes:

Aard

Maybe her message wasn't entirely clear due to incorrect punctuation or something?

Mc Kenzie

Aard wrote: »

Maybe her message wasn't entirely clear due to incorrect punctuation or something?

Doubt it somehow?:rolleyes:

Morag

Life is about having experiences and learning from them.
Take what you can from what happened and next time ask very clear questions about what will happen and be clear about what you don't want to happen.

Chuchoter

This sounds like something that happened on Lip Service. :P

OP, write it down to experience. Don't have sex with randomers off the internet.

Asry

crayolastereo wrote: »

OP, write it down to experience. Don't have sex with randomers off the internet.

But I love doing that! It's sex without having to buy them drinks all night and listen to them talk! :cool:

I guess if the situation wasn't clear about her boyfriend, leading you to assume what would happen instead of just asking what would happen...I guess, yeah. Just ask better questions next time.

Annasopra

What's your point?

Kanoe

I don't think it's specifically related to internet dating (tho I've haven't tried it yet :P) you'll find there's a market for threesomes everywhere these days.

but you could just look to mingle closer to home, there's plenty of bi girls hanging out in straight pubs/clubs.. tho they're not always sign posted.

DubArk

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

To any one who reads, im not trying to be crude, rude or any of the like im just looking for your opinions.
,,
Im a female straight but i was curiose to be with a girl. i met a girl online, i was abit dubiouse but she was lovely.got on well. she told me she had a boyfreind and she was bi.,it wasnt really indicated clearly wat the situation would be with her bf. i kinda assumed hed watch or something....
........Thing is i only met her and text her alone, then i went over 4 dinner i met boyfriend for first time.and realised he wud be part of it. I wasnt attracted to him at all,and i felt like i had no choice to be with the fella aswell., when i tried to explain to the girl,it was an offence to her and she said she didnt realise her bf was a dealbreaker. ...i dont understand.how cud she jus expect me be with him too regardless if i was attracted or not.:rolleyes:

The situation was you consented to this threesome. I too am wondering, what’s your question?? Did you feel obliged to have a threesome out of politeness??
I remember been put into a similar situation with two guy and once the penny dropped, I said no thanks and left! Why didn’t you do that yourself??

Mc Kenzie

ok!.......what my point is that, i was wandering why she was so upset or coudnt understand why i wasnt attracted to her boyfreind. just because i liked her, doesn that mean i should autamatically like your other half????

and yes iv learned my lesson i think ill stay away from net dates ect.

Asry

dear God no. I like my friends but that doesn't necessarily mean I like their other halfs. My friends all hated my ex bf and didn't tell me till we'd broken up.

Internet dating is perfectly safe so long as you *meet them in a public place that's well lit* and make sure that you ask every question you have.

And it doesn't sound like you were dating

Kanoe

Asry wrote: »

Internet dating is perfectly safe so long as you *meet them in a public place that's well lit* and make sure that you ask every question you have.

Tescos at 3.30, I'll be at the frozen food aisle, near the tofu.

Kanoe

Aard wrote: »

Maybe her message wasn't entirely clear due to incorrect punctuation or something?

What's with the constant need to take the piss out of someone on their first post here? it does my fcking head in, it says a lot about you and drags the level of the forum down to that of gaire.

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

ok!.......what my point is that, i was wandering why she was so upset or coudnt understand why i wasnt attracted to her boyfreind. just because i liked her, doesn that mean i should autamatically like your other half????

and yes iv learned my lesson i think ill stay away from net dates ect.

you learn to tell them to get fcuked very quickly without feeling bad about it, just remember they certainly wouldn't hold you with any kind of regard and they'll just go back to the internets to seek out more fodder/sleep with the first human who sniffs the air around them and you walk away with your integrity intact.

Asphyxia

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

ok!.......what my point is that, i was wandering why she was so upset or coudnt understand why i wasnt attracted to her boyfreind. just because i liked her, doesn that mean i should autamatically like your other half????

and yes iv learned my lesson i think ill stay away from net dates ect.

No you shouldn't have to like her fella, I'm sure she just got the wrong idea and thought you wanted to have the threesome and was upset because she might have been looking forward to it.

If you are searching for girls online in the future make sure they know exactly what you want and it might be a good idea to keep away from anyone in a relationship.

Mc Kenzie

Kanoe wrote: »

What's with the constant need to take the piss out of someone on their first post here? it does my fcking head in, it says a lot about you and drags the level of the forum down to that of gaire.


you learn to tell them to get fcuked very quickly without feeling bad about it, just remember they certainly wouldn't hold you with any kind of regard and they'll just go back to the internets to seek out more fodder/sleep with the first human who sniffs the air around them and you walk away with your integrity intact.

thanx kanoe:).......lol maybee...i wasnt dating either.anyways i figured im not as intrested in girls as much as men after all. what a conundrem lol.

Mc Kenzie

Asphyxia wrote: »

No you shouldn't have to like her fella, I'm sure she just got the wrong idea and thought you wanted to have the threesome and was upset because she might have been looking forward to it.

If you are searching for girls online in the future make sure they know exactly what you want and it might be a good idea to keep away from anyone in a relationship.

your prob right , was just annoying cos she kept textin sayin he was good an she liked him,.oh iv learned my lesson lol

Asry

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

thanx kanoe:).......lol maybee...i wasnt dating either.anyways i figured im not as intrested in girls as much as men after all. what a conundrem lol.

What a dreadful shame.

/leaves the tofu section of Tescos, dejected and alone. :cool:

Kanoe

Asry wrote: »

/leaves the tofu section of Tescos, dejected and alone. :cool:

sorry, I got distracted in the liquor aisle :0]

Asry

I'm liking you more and more already. :rolleyes:

Kanoe

I'll grow on you.

waits for mod to direct flirtation to off topic thread