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depressed gf

  • 01-06-2011 1:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago after over 4 years together saying she just wants to be alone and doesn't want to be with me anymore. We have text a few times since and I know she still loves me as she tells me and I obviously still love her.

    Thing is, I know she is pretty down and probably depressed, she had a death in her family recently and one of her parents is an alcoholic. things between us have been a bit different for the last few months and I understand completely why because of everything she has been through.

    I just want to help her through everything because I hate seeing her so down but the other day she got really angry at me know and told me its none of my business anymore.

    Should I cut off all contact with her and leave her alone?


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  • #2
    karaokeman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,328 ✭✭✭karaokeman


    It sounds like your gf has her own problems.

    I wouldn't say cut contact but rather let her make the first move.

    You've done all in your power to help her feel better so maybe she does need some space.

    I'm sure if things are so bad she will eventually turn to you for advice.

    Leave the ball in her court for the time being.

    Otherwise if you see her out about or whatever just try and act normal. Don't try to be too nice because she might feel insecure that way.

    Hope I've helped and I hope she does get better:)


  • #3
    corked
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 192 ✭✭corked


    Good advice there from karaokeman.

    I went out with a guy for 2 years who went though periods of depression - its important to let her know that you are there for her.
    Perhaps call her or meet her for a coffee and explain your concern for her and just tell her you are there if needed.


  • #4
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    I recently went through (am gong through) a bereavement and would not leave my OH for the world now...

    While this may contribute to her overall emotional state, please do not hold out hope that she is doing this because of this incident. She may have a lot of stressful situations at the moment but if the relationship was what she needs / 100% strong she would not be leaving it.

    Move on and see how she is in a few months time but dont hold out hope. Good luck.


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