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Online pal has disappeared

  • 30-05-2011 10:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been in contact with someone online over the last 2 weeks, usual banter back and forth.
    Logged in today to find they've deleted their account!
    Am I completely off kilter to be slightly offended that they never "said goodbye"?
    Is this normal in the online world? (deleting your account/not notifying online acquaintances)


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  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    The same etiquette that would apply in real-life doesn't really translate to online ime. He's either decided to block you and you only or he has deactivated his account. I wouldn't give it too much thought tbh.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hmm, I think I'd be a bit miffed too, but also a bit suspicious. I could be way off the mark here but to me that sniffs of a guy who got caught by his wife or girlfriend. When else do people actually delete their accounts?


  • #4
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Is it a dating website? I'd imagine if it is, they've met someone and deleted their account and no offence, aren't even thinking of you. Two weeks isn't exactly a lifetime and they probably just think of you as an aquaintence on a forum/site and not a "friend".


  • #5
    Elle Collins
    Closed Accounts Posts: 681 ✭✭✭Elle Collins


    I'm always bemused when I hear people being surprised about this. These aren't relationships! What's not to understand about that?? :confused:


  • #6
    monroebaby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32 ✭monroebaby


    Online=Virtual

    Meeting someone online, you only see what they want you to see. Although its more and more common for people to meet potential partners online, its still a strange territory. This person obviously didn't place as much importance on your chats and banter as you did. Learn from it, online friends aren't real friends unless you also know them in the real world.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Say you met someone at a bus stop and chatted to them casually every day at the bus stop for two weeks. If you turned up on the 14th day and they wernt there, would you be hurt that they hadnt contacted you to say theyd no longer be getting that bus?

    This wasnt your friend it was someone you had casual chit chat with for a very short period of time, and you never even met them!


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    daftanddirect wrote: »
    Hmm, I think I'd be a bit miffed too, but also a bit suspicious. I could be way off the mark here but to me that sniffs of a guy who got caught by his wife or girlfriend. When else do people actually delete their accounts?

    emm they've been talking with a few people and have met someone else??

    And where does it say in the OP that it's a guy?

    OP welcome to the world of online dating. Lost count of the number of times that happened. Chatting away for days/weeks, getting on really well and then....nada. Takes a bit of a thick skin to not get disheartened. Tried it on and off over the last two years, met some really nice girls but to be honest far too many messer's, timewasters and people with no manners for my taste so called it a day.

    My advice? Wouldn't give the why's of it a second thought, just be prepared for it to happen more than once.

    Best of luck


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