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Exam Stress

  • 29-05-2011 12:23pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi!

    Girlfriend and I are both twenty four, I work full time in Dublin and she has gone back to college up north. We see each other every weekend, we have lived together before and will be again for the summer months. We've been going out for four years.

    I feel our relationship is very good and we are both happy. However, during exams this comes into question. Every time they come round I'm nervous as to what will happen. At Christmas she doubted whether I wanted to be with her or play the field (she's my first proper girlfriend and only person I've slept with) and this time she read secretly read my texts and one night had a little panic attack about not knowing who she was and I was to big of a part in her life. Generally when this happens I try (but fail! - nothing I do is right in these situations) and support her and sit it out until the morning when she has calmed down and can think and listen clearly and logically but this was the first time I genuinely was concerned that she was going to break up with me and if I'm honest I was thinking 'F this' myself. Well she didn't and exams are finished and we seem to be back to normal.

    The stress of exams seems to bring out all these insecurities about our relationship. What do people think of the above? Whats the best way to deal with it? Its always an unpleasant experience and something I'm sure both of us don't want to go through. We have talked about it (her insecurities and possible lack of trust) but I don't think thats going anywhere and probably gets pushed under the carpet for another day (or exam!).


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  • #2
    BroomBurner
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    Exams can really mess up your thought process. You're trying to concentrate on one thing, but the brain will naturally try to distract itself by thinking about other things.

    Also, going back as a mature student is a bit different than first time around - you're out of practice with studying, and it was probably such a big decision that you absolutely HAVE to pass all the exams. It adds a lot more pressure. I'm talking from experience here, and can attest to being a lot more stressed then ever before.

    Try talking to your girlfriend after the results are out, and it's become a bit of a distant memory, and ask her to suggest ways to manage it for the next time. Do you live together btw?


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