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Together 4 years .. and.. :(

  • 28-05-2011 10:35pm
    #1
    mouthforwar93
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 46 ✭


    Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 whole years. and this is not including a time when we went out for a few months before and then we broke up for a few months.

    When we were about 2 years together, she moved away to college, and its never been the same. We only ever see each other once a week and she stays over. She is only friends with guys in college, alot of them, (guys will understand how bad this can be) and its never been the same. We've made it a further 2 years but now its just can pretty bad.

    Whenever we're apart I do something to get my mind off her or I'm with my friends and just dont mind being apart. But when I think about her all I feel is bad feelings, like where is she now and what is she doing like shes always doing something bad.

    Whenever we text its a fight, whenever we call theres nothing to say.. And if its the odd time and we say we cant wait to see each other, when we finally do, its quiet and both of us are wondering what we're thinking and we're both mad for no reason and its awkward! After 4 years its awkward and never was!

    Whenever I try imagine myself detached from it seems ok because she can go and do her own thing and it doesn't hurt me as much because its her own thing and.. well I cant really explain it..

    Its getting very hard now if anyone had advice I would GREATLY appreciate it.

    Please let me know what you think, this is very difficult.

    Thanks..
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  • #2
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,690 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    sounds like you've reached the end of the road tbh.

    Sorry for being blunt, but that's how it reads to me. I'm with my bf 2.5 years and still enjoy small things like an unexpected call during the day, or silly gifts, or nights out, and enjoy having a laugh with him.

    Lots of quiet time, but lots of lovely times too.


  • #3
    johnr1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 965 ✭✭✭johnr1


    Have to agree with Stheno, Sorry OP, but it might be best to call time on it, and walk away not hating each other.
    She may well be seeing the life her single friends lead in college, and resenting the fact that she's in a relationship and can't do similar.
    People grow in different directions sometimes, and while it's horrible and feels rotten, it's life, many of us go through it and survive it to find even better relationships down the road.
    Best of luck.


  • #4
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    I can only agree with what the others have said. It looks to me like things have run their course and it's only a matter of time before either you or her put this relationship out of its misery. People can change a lot in their late teens/early twenties, especially when they leave school and go on to college. You might not have an awful lot in common any more through no fault of either of ye.


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