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"Cold Call" to potential birth mother

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  • 28-05-2011 2:33am
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    ajbarrington
    Registered Users Posts: 30 ✭


    I now know my birth mothers full name (including middle name) and have a birth cert that I think is hers but am struggling to take it any further.
    Ive been to Joyce house and dont believe that she got married.

    I have put her name into the eircom phone book and have come across a few "maybes".

    Would appreciate any advice on how to go about "cold calling".

    Cheers
    AJ


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    #2
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,865 ✭✭✭✭January


    I wouldn't cold call anybody... you could potentially cause some women a lot of heartbreak...


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    kathy finn
    Registered Users Posts: 324 ✭✭kathy finn


    please don,t call anybody til your 100% sure u have the right person, and even if u ar please send a registered letter.
    u have no idea how u could ruin any chance of a good outcome to ur search by contacting this way....kathy


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    tyview
    Registered Users Posts: 210 ✭✭tyview


    Hi AJ,

    I would tend to agree with the others above. I know how tempting it is and how frustrating it is when you seem to come to a dead end.

    If her name can be translated into irish, have you checked the marriage records for that? Have you checked findmypast.co.uk for possible marriage in the UK?

    Theres a good chance she may not even be in the phonebook too so you could be setting yourself up for some awkward questions from strangers for nothing. Have you checked the electoral register for the address you have on the BC?


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    goat2
    Registered Users Posts: 4,939 ✭✭✭goat2


    ajbarrington wrote: »
    I now know my birth mothers full name (including middle name) and have a birth cert that I think is hers but am struggling to take it any further.
    Ive been to Joyce house and dont believe that she got married.

    I have put her name into the eircom phone book and have come across a few "maybes".

    Would appreciate any advice on how to go about "cold calling".

    Cheers
    AJ
    i would not cold call, but i would go to the area that she resides for a day or two, book into a bed and breakfast nearby, get to know some people from the area, and ask about her, but not telling that you are her child, find out about her present situation, thread carefully


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    flipall
    Registered Users Posts: 159 ✭✭flipall


    What did you decide to do ajbarrington?? any luck??


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    ajbarrington
    Registered Users Posts: 30 ✭ajbarrington


    goat2 wrote: »
    i would not cold call, but i would go to the area that she resides for a day or two, book into a bed and breakfast nearby, get to know some people from the area, and ask about her, but not telling that you are her child, find out about her present situation, thread carefully

    Sounds like something from Miami Vice ;-)


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    ajbarrington
    Registered Users Posts: 30 ✭ajbarrington


    flipall wrote: »
    What did you decide to do ajbarrington?? any luck??

    Hi, thanks for your interest.

    I have not done anything yet - its too easy not to do anything.
    Im just not sure what I would say. I certainly would not introduce myself as her adopted son - because that would be crazy.

    Maybe just ask for her middle name (to verify) and then hang up lol.

    Its so bloody difficult!!!


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    flipall
    Registered Users Posts: 159 ✭✭flipall


    Maybe you could ask her what her middle name is for verification and then ask her has she got a computer in the house :D how is she to know you arent a scammer!!


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