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Mother eating disorder....

  • 27-05-2011 11:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    This has me worried sick. Im 25, she has two younger kids 10 and 12. She is not eating enough, eating and then puking it up on the sly, or telling lies about what she that day. i.e making stuff up when she has not eaten at all.

    She works a demanding job and has to drive as part of it sometimes. I am in fear of her health and my sisters. As the calories needed to fuel her for the day are non existent.

    I have tried everything, but she refuses to talk about it and fobs me off. I am worried fcking sick.

    What can I do and where can I go. She is dangerously thin, I would guess 7 stone (this is light for the size of her) and she used to be about 9.75.

    Ive seen her do it twice in the past while, once with a big fcuk off tub of ice cream in her bedroom, when I popped in unexpectedly and then tonight with a big bowl of cereal and straight into the bathroom to puke it up, I dont know how she thinks I dont know whats going on and how she can continually lie to me & expect me to believe all is ok when it is clearly not. Shes in the kitchken there now washing her face making hicup sounds & now just ran back into the bathroom........

    Sweet jesus what can I do.


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  • #2
    coolcat63
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 193 ✭✭coolcat63


    What a horrible situation for you. Does she have other family - parents, brothers, sisters - or a good friend you can talk to about her eating disorder? Perhaps you could have a chat with her GP?


  • #3
    xzanti
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,446 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    Unless she admits that she has a problem, there's really very little you can do.. But, she will probably never admit to her habit, her disorder will have become her best friend and she will lie to the last to protect it..

    You could confront her about it, but chances are she will just resent you for it, unfortunately.. There is a lot of shame that comes along with such a disorder or 'distress' as some refer to it as..

    If you do manage to talk her round.. there's a Doctor on the Malahide Road called Tarik Zourobe and he specializes in people with eating disorders.. he can evaluate her physical condition, she will need to see someone different re her emotional/mental health though obviously..

    Also, there's a great Dentist in Portobello who can help her with any damage to her teeth.. Very understanding and discrete.. Helen Walsh at the Portobello Clinic.. she's brilliant..

    She is 'fixable'.. it's just a question of if she wants to be fixed..

    In the meantime, does she take any vitamin supplements? Maybe you could buy her some Pharmaton or something and just encourage her to take them.. Maybe say something like "Jesus Mam I'm taking these and they're brilliant, I've loads of energy from them" and throw them into her handbag.. It's a small thing but could make a big difference to her.. Her potassium levels will be very low if she's throwing up a lot..

    Best of luck with it..


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