My first coldsore, and I have plans with girls tonight and tomorrow night

LegacyUser

Hello

I am 27 years old and have never had a cold sore before but yesterday morning I noticed a tiny fold on my lower lip which could easily have been mistaken as the results of unconsciously biting dry skin from my lip, and so I did. Later that day it developed into a tingle, and then before bed it started to bulge and I realised what was happening so I iced it for 20 minutes and then covered it in toothpaste.

This morning on removing the toothpaste there was a small scab which I iced for an hour, taking breaks of 2/3 minutes every 10 or so. If the scab is gone by tonight I may get away with it but it may still be developing as the toothpaste and ice might not have stopped it? But worse than than that, is it correct I run a high risk of passing it on to a girl's lips.... and more intimate places?

I have never met the girl I am seeing tonight before but I know she will want to kiss as we have been talking and I suspect she wants more. Cancelling on her is one thing, but I already cancelled before and she was worried I would cancel this time so I am worried if I do I will have lost my chance.

The woman I am meeting tomorrow night definitely wants to have sex as she has told me, but I have also never her met before and I am worried if cancelling will mean I will never have the chance to see her again. I could maybe hope that if it's not gone by tonight hopefully it will be by tomorrow night, but I cannot know it's still not just beginning and either way I do not want to pass it on. If I am going to cancel I think it would be better to do it today rather than tomorrow because it gives her more notice to make plans for Saturday night, but if I cancel it may be better by tomorrow...

If curious both girls are from dating websites, the second more liberal than the next, and both know I am not looking for a relationship etc.

If you were me would you cancel both rather than risk passing on 'face (or worse) herpes' to them which would be ultimately worse? I suspect I have this cold sore from a girl I kissed last week because as I have said I never had one before and she was the only girl I had been with for a month or so, the point being I am not very pleased with her for not telling me if it was her I got it from, and I would not like anyone I meet with this weekend to look at me in the same light.

Please advise.

Oryx

would not like anyone I meet with this weekend to look at me in the same light.

This.

Don't meet either of them, or if you do, explain the risk of them catching the cold sore virus from you. To do anything less is irresponsible and unfair on them.

Oh, and ask a chemist for cold sore treatment. Toothpaste isnt!

bellylint

Hi op,
You could always explain to them why it doesnt suit to meet up and still show you are keen to meet, and suggest another alternate date. Re being worried about cancelling and missing the opportunity, there will always other opportunities, sure heck you have two this weekend.
I believe cancelling would be the decent thing to do mate, hopefully they will be ok with it.

Kosseegan

Get some spirit of camphor. Put it on every few minutes. Cold Sore will be gone in no time.

Pyr0

Carmex works wonders for me, disappears in about 1/2 days. Meet up with them but let them know that you have a cold sore.

Stinicker

You have Herpes the gift that keeps on giving! You do not want to either kiss or perform oral sex on anyone until it has all healed up which may take about two or three weeks. They are a nuisance and I have been getting them since I was about 8, I have had four since last November, with one appearing almost immediately after the first one healed, I got another bad one then about 3 months ago and another less severe one three weeks ago. They usually take around a forthnight to heal and a third week to totally disappear. I frekking hate them and they are a major downer whenever I get one!

shellyboo

Love that there doesn't seem to be any middle ground between "cancel" and "snog/have sex". Why not just meet both of them and enjoy their company for a night? Coldsore will be gone in a few days (if you get proper medication for it -- toothpaste doesn't cure coldsores) and you can see them again after that.

If you cancel because you have a coldsore, you WILL have blown it. Both girls (even if they know it already) will be put off by the implication that the only reason you'd bother spending time with them is if you get to make out or more.