"Isn't it about time you grew up?"

Doc

I overheard someone say this on the tram the other day and though they weren’t talking to me I wondered, was it time for me to grow up?

I thought to myself what do I really have to show for myself after all my years on the planet? Do I still act like a child and do foolish stuff? Have I made plans for the future? Why don’t I have a wife and kids like a lot of my friends are starting to have?
How am I forwarding myself in my career? Is it even the right career for me?

I began to feel a bit down on myself because I didn’t have very positive answers to any of those questions. I was sitting there thinking; actually I really do need to smarten up and start acting far more grown up and sensible and stop just living for the moment and doing things simply because they seem like fun.

Then I thought na fcuk that siht I’m awesome and I could be dead tomorrow so screw mortgages weddings and kids (by screw I mean to hell with not have sex with). I’ll spend my money on beer, holidays and going out for dinner as long as I can, and as long as someone will pay me enough to do those things I’ll make the most out of it.

As I was getting of the tram I had to stop myself from giving the finger to the person who said “isn’t time you grew up?” (very childish I know) because I nearly forgot they hadn’t said it to me.

True story.

Anyway anyone out there started thinking its about time they grew up and put away childish things?

OMG Its EoinD

That would be an ecumenical matter

OutlawPete

To speak truly, few adult persons can see nature. Most persons do not see the sun. At least they have a very superficial seeing. The sun illuminates only the eye of the man, but shines into the eye and heart of the child. The lover of nature is he whose inward and outward senses are still truly adjusted to each other; who has retained the spirit of infancy even into the era of manhood. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Doc

OutlawPete wrote: »

To speak truly, few adult persons can see nature. Most persons do not see the sun. At least they have a very superficial seeing. The sun illuminates only the eye of the man, but shines into the eye and heart of the child. The lover of nature is he whose inward and outward senses are still truly adjusted to each other; who has retained the spirit of infancy even into the era of manhood. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

But where is he now?

Napper Hawkins

Massachusetts.

big b

You're asking the AH crowd if they're thinking about growing up?

Yore Ma is likely to get kicked in the face & blasted with piss. It'll be a cool story, bro.

Doc

big b wrote: »

You're asking the AH crowd if they're thinking about growing up?

Yore Ma is likely to get kicked in the face & blasted with piss. It'll be a cool story, bro.

That would be a horrible story bro.

myflipflops

How does having a wife/kids/mortgage make you more grown up? Also, you seem to imply that these things would somehow make you a better, more noble person. I don't agree with that.

Doc

myflipflops wrote: »

How does having a wife/kids/mortgage make you more grown up? Also, you seem to imply that these things would somehow make you a better, more noble person. I don't agree with that.

How many 5 year olds do you know with a wife, kids and a mortgage?

DOC09UNAM

Definitely Yes, definitely.

myflipflops

Doc wrote: »

How many 5 year olds do you know with a wife, kids and a mortgage?

None, what's your point?

I know a few f*cking idiots that are married with kids. You don't suddenly become a responsible adult when you become a parent.

Doc

myflipflops wrote: »

None, what's your point?

I know a few f*cking idiots that are married with kids. You don't suddenly become a responsible adult when you become a parent.

My point is that these are grown up things which I still do not have, not that having them will make me more responsible. If I did have these things however it would give me more things to be responsible for and should make me act more responsibly then someone with no responsibilities.

Jumpy

myflipflops wrote: »

None, what's your point?

I know a few f*cking idiots that are married with kids. You don't suddenly become a responsible adult when you become a parent.

You dont have kids.

You wouldnt understand.

*smug*

Hande hoche!

Jumpy wrote: »

You dont have kids.

You wouldnt understand.

*smug*

Ray D'Arcy?

inforfun

Op, are you having a good time (apart from yesterday on the bustram)

If so, **** growing up.

Duggy747

If "Isn't it about time you grew up?" was said to me I'll just revert back a year mentally in spite of the miserable bastards :pac:

Say it a couple of thousand of times to me and I'll go as far back as an ape.............complete with flinging poo.

The King of Moo

You can be young at heart and still have a wife, mortgage etc.

Similarly, you can be serious and responsible without them.

Don't get tied into thinking that such external things necessarily go along with whatever you're like on the inside.

blow69

It sounds like you don't know if you want a child, but think you need the responsibility that a child brings.

imo, this makes you unprepared to be be a parent.

It's like having a tattoo on your face. You kind of really need to be committed.

mconigol

OP isn't it time you sent me that money you owe me?

hatrickpatrick

There's only one question here that matters.
Are you happy?

If you're happy and your not harming others, f*ck the haters. It's none of their damn business.

I don't think "having a wife and kids" is any measure of being "grown up" or not...

GavRedKing

Cant it wait until Monday?? Its Friday dude, cheer up.

Funkfield

We never really grow up. We just learn how to act in public.

/thread

JohnMarston

You can only take life as it comes as far as im concerned. Each day will have its own worries so pay no heed to what some numpty said on a bus.

I have a friend who has two kids and isnt even 25. Still the biggest jackass i know but can be very responsible and grown when he needs to be.

Guill

Grow old, never grow up.

JohnCleary

gavredking wrote: »

Cant it wait until Monday?? Its Friday dude, cheer up.

Gotta get down on Friday

JohnMarston

JohnCleary wrote: »

Gotta get down on Friday

:rolleyes:

NothingMan

JohnMarston wrote: »

:rolleyes:

Someone must have pissed in your bowl, pissed in your cereal before getting down to the buuuuus stop.

JohnCleary

NothingMan wrote: »

Someone must have pissed in your bowl, pissed in your cereal before getting down to the buuuuus stop.

Which seat will I take?

Smiley G

we are all individuals and should live our lives how we choose... it is not everyones path to get married and have a family. Far too many people do this without really realising the responsibility and commitment it requires... then they mess up and cause upset for all around them.

I lost count of friends who got engaged after 3 yrs in a relationship as they thought this was the next step!... LoL! never asking themselves if this is what they truely wanted, but simply being swayed by society's expectations of normality.

contentment and happiness is paramount:)

Naikon

Do what YOU want to do within legal bounds by default. Screw this ill informed notion of "growing up". Subjectivity is an awful thing.

bonerm

Doc wrote: »

Anyway anyone out there started thinking its about time they grew up and put away childish things?

Nah. 40 is the new 20, 60 is the new 30 and 80 is the new dead.

old hippy

I hit a certain milestone birthday & I decided to ask the other half to marry me. So we did. Have a job, roof over our heads and mortgage.

I don't feel grown up, mind. Feel I'm still learning and growing all the time.

Wish I could trade my jaded body in for a new model, however

Fratton Fred

Growing old is compulsory, growing up isn't.

It is true though, that as you get older your children keep you young, although having your 8 year old tel you that maybe it is about time you grew up probably isn't a good thing.

stovelid

When anybody in the 7-15 year old age bracket starts calling you mister, then it's time.

Jesus Wept

These people need to be told to go **** themselves, only people who are fed up with their lot and your freedom say this sh1t. People want other people to conform and do what they are doing so that they feel better about it.

old hippy

The-Rigger wrote: »

These people need to be told to go **** themselves, only people who are fed up with their lot and your freedom say this sh1t. People want other people to conform and do what they are doing so that they feel better about it.

Freedom, you say?

DeVore

Its been my experience that when people tell you to "grow up" it means they want you to conform to their expectations rather than living your own life.

Oh and generally to have less fun because their lives are grey.


I have consulted to the board of directors of Barclays Bank and lectured to worldwide medical conferences but I still enjoy eating penny jellies, playing Xbox and telling my nephew fart jokes

Having balance in your life is more "mature" than being deathly serious all the time bleaching all the fun out of life.

"A little nonsense now and then is cherished by the wisest men!" -- Willy Wonka.


DeV.

Earthhorse

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11

I think there's a lot of wisdom in that. If you are finding your life isn't as fulfilling as it could be perhaps it is because you are still doing things that you were doing a few years ago which have lost their appeal. There is no checklist, as such, of things to do or acquire that will make you more grown up, nor is there a list of things to stop doing or get rid of that will make you less of a child, but if you find you are wanting change or there is "something missing" then don't be afraid to attempt that change or seek out what that it might be.

NothingMan

Earthhorse wrote: »

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things, except of course my XBox, and Transformer figures, they could be worth soemthing someday! 1 Corinthians 13:11

FYP.

Pauleta

Im never gonna grow up. Im gonna keep on rocking forever and ever and ever and ever.

DrHLecter

Earthhorse wrote: »

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11

and so i did invest my time and work. i did toil to build up my stock. and so it came to pass that i did build a house and find a wife.

but the money lenders did screw me over and the wife did leave mine broke ass. and so i would be in the same place today as if id just kept playing my xbox, wa.nking and playing online poker.

--LOS--

I definitely dont meet the requirements of being grown up judging by the op

Latchy

I still take the pee out of myself ,spout babble and pull gormless faces ( mainly at myself and family ) except I'm 30 years older now but there's still a bit of the crazy 17 year old in there , refusing to grow old disgracefully ...

Eve_Dublin

As old Pablo Neruda once said...

"“A child who does not play is not a child, but the man who doesn't play has lost forever the child who lived in him and who he will miss terribly.”

I'm always going to act the eejit for as long as I live! Look at the Spanish! They live at home 'till their mid-thirties and the men can't even make themselves a sandwich and they've the longest life expectancy in Europe!

Latchy

To quote Kate Bush

'' Ohoooo he's here again ,the man with the child in his eyes ''

And Lennon

'' Woman, I know you understand ,the little child inside the man ''


We may grow old and mature as wine but there's a still a child inside us all .

'

JohnCleary

You're only as old as the person you're feeling

JohnMarston

Grow up, lose your inner child. Then come back and tell me you're happier