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  • 25-05-2011 4:09pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Basically to cut a long story short, I ended up having an affair with a married man for a significant period of time on and off. It was a massive mistake on my part from the beginning. Thought I knew him well as it developed from a friendship but it turns out he was just playing me the entire time and I am just one in a string in affairs he seems to have had.

    This never sat right with me but now that I know I was not a once off as he lead me to believe my heart really goes out to his wife, kids and extended family.

    I'm torn as to whether or not she would be better off knowing.


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP - it is a little bit late now to be playing the victim here.

    You knowingly screwed this guy while his wife and family waited at home.
    If it did not bother you then it is a little rich to let it bother you now.

    Let's face it - you want to hurt him.
    However - all you will do is hurt his family. I agree they need to know - but I have to question your motives - and hence believe that you just need to cut your losses and remove him and her from your thoughts. Seriously learn from this and move on - just don't repeat it.


  • #3
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Leave it. He’ll be found out soon enough and you’re just causing yourself major problems by getting involved in his marriage again. It also makes you look bitter that he is still with his wife and not you.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    I'd be sceptical about your sudden crisis of conscience and how well intentioned it is. You obviously didn't give a sh1t about his wife or kids when you chose to carry on the affair so I'm not really all that convinced that you suddenly feel so guilt-ridden you feel compelled to tell them. :confused: More like an act of revenge out of bitterness on your part. Leave well enough alone.


  • #5
    greengiant09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 237 ✭✭greengiant09


    Miss Fluff wrote: »
    You obviously didn't give a sh1t about his wife or kids when you chose to carry on the affair so I'm not really all that convinced that you suddenly feel so guilt-ridden you feel compelled to tell them. :confused: .

    completely agree more!.....your whole actions from the start of this affair to this new found consciousness have all been about your OWN selfish motives......never his family welfare.


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