over analysing things

janeymack1

hi i have a problem where i THINK way too much.
my thoughts are rubbish thoughts that are consuming my brain every day.
its only been a recent thing, in the last couple of months but it's absolutely messing up my head.
i can't go about my daily life without things popping into my head and i have to think about them or they just stay there all day.
does anybody have anything similar? is there something wrong with me?
it's gotten to the stage where i write the issues down so they don't have to be thought about.
i am too embarrassed to even say what the thoughts are as they are so ridiculous but they all deal with me not trusting my own judgement. for example, i'll answer the issue in my head and then it comes back repeatedly and i keep having to think of it again.

any suggestions how to switch my brain off?
it mainly involves an issue i feel strongly about but then i doubt if i'm right.
it started around the time my last relationship ended but i dont know if it has anything to do with that or not..

Miss Fluff

I think you need to visit your GP and be referred for counselling of some sort tbh.

janeymack1

really fluff?

what do you think the biggest problem about it is?
i'm blind to it myself

Miss Fluff

If you're starting multiple threads in 24 hours on the multiple issues you are having as well as PMing me and other members of Boards yesterday asking for advice then you probably need to go to a professional if your (many) problems are taking up that much of your thinking time.

A GP may be able to advise on relaxtion techniques or at least be able to properly assess you. Obsessive thoughts are common to a lot of anxiety disorders and only a professional can make that diagnosis.

tinkerbell

OP, you need to see a professional.

janeymack1

tinkerbell wrote: »

OP, you need to see a professional.

thanks for this tinkerbell and i really appreciate how much you have helped me as i do all the people on boards.
i am sorry if i have annoyed you. can i just ask you why you say i need to see a professional? whats wrong with me?

poozers

i dont think there's anything "wrong" with you OP!! i do the same things too, if something crap happened me at work, or if i have even a minor disagreement with a friend, i think bout it, and get all riled up! i get in a bad mood instantly and feel really angry! i went to councelling last year over a few crap things that have happened me, and i learned a little bit from it! im glad i went all the same, and felt great after sessions, and i also got loads of breathing and relaxation techniques, i listen to soft music that i love, i try spend time by myself doing things i enjoy doing! im sure you can get helpful breathing techniques online if you are a bit unsure about seeing a professional, or even to prepare for your first appointment!! but just remember theres absolutely nothing wrong with going to see a professional, and shouldnt be ashamed of anything!! these people are trained for this! my fathers a psychotherapist and has the most unjudgemental and calm personality out of anyone i've ever met, and he's been training for years! and when i went to my councellor, he was just the same and instantly felt comfortable with him!! no harm in tryin

tinkerbell

janeymack1 wrote: »

thanks for this tinkerbell and i really appreciate how much you have helped me as i do all the people on boards.
i am sorry if i have annoyed you. can i just ask you why you say i need to see a professional? whats wrong with me?

I'm no expert nor a therapist or anything but you've started at least 3 PI threads that I can recall in the last day, all about different issues. You clearly have issues with yourself, not able to speak up for yourself, over analysing and obsessing, obsessing about your ex boyfriend when you have a current boyfriend, etc. It is not healthy.

And you haven't annoyed me - people post on here asking for advice and we offer advice to them. I like to help people with their problems, that's why I post on here all the time. I just think that multiple threads with different problems, perhaps you need to take a step back and see where all this is coming from? i.e. why you feel the need to worry about your ex boyfriend, constantly giving your friend money and not asking for it back, afraid to ask your boyfriend for money back, thinking so little of yourself that you should just give your friend/bf loans that don't need to be repaid, over analysing and obsessing with things, not believing in your own judgement and constantly questioning your reasoning behind things, etc.

I think you need to spend some time focusing on YOU rather than everyone else. De-stress, take up a hobby, go to the gym and work out all that stress in you, that'll give you something else to focus on. Start believing in yourself and that you're not someone who is to be walked all over. I think perhaps some counselling might help you if you can't sort them out by yourself.

LegacyUser

janeymack1 wrote: »

really fluff?

what do you think the biggest problem about it is?
i'm blind to it myself

You are only going to upset yourself more by trying to fix it yourself.You should go to your GP,and explain how you feel.It feels bigger when you try to deal with it your self,you can feel very isolated,and think nobody ever felt this way before.All the best.