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Hot & Cold

  • 24-05-2011 9:50pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've started to see this girl a while ago.

    After a few successful dates she asked me out. I was only too delighted as I really like her.

    About a week later she was being hassled by her ex and told me she was under a lot of pressure and just wanted to be friends. I was gutted but respected that she needed space.

    The very next day she called me saying she had made a mistake and wanted to be with me and missed me. We've been getting on great since and have decided to move in together.

    The night before we moved in she dropped a bombshell that she just wanted to move in as good friends and take it from there.

    I really don't know what to do. Things have been really awkward and I don't know what to say to her. This Hot & Cold thing is really hurting me.

    Any advice appreciated...


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  • #2
    neveah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 282 ✭✭neveah


    Wait a second....ye went on a few dates and then decided to move in together?? Have I got this right?? :confused:

    If so sounds like you went so boiling hot so fast you burned the water outta the pan!

    It might have been better to take things slower, she probably might feel like things are moving too fast hence her hot/coldness


  • #3
    gypsy_rose
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 453 ✭✭gypsy_rose


    I think you need to sit her down and ask exactly what she wants.

    Maybe she's not really ready to move on after her ex, but this thing of you being a couple and then her just wanting to be friends and moving in together is absolutely ridiculous and a total mind****.

    If you haven't moved in together yet I strongly recommend that you don't for a while until your relationship is on more stable ground, living together is the next step in a relationship and can put certain strains on you both, it's a test for how compatible you'll be in the long term.

    If she keeps playing games like this I think you should walk, no one needs that kind of rubbish.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ty GR, was thinking the same myself but it helps getting another view. We've moved in together today and she only just mentioned the friends thing last night. Really don't think she knows what she wants but I can't sit around being a doormat while she finds out. Will have that chat tomorrow.


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