How do i go about changing (a court arranged) custody arrangment?

strega1679

Hi
I need some advice legal or from personal experience.
I have been seperated from my son(now 10yrs old) since he was only a few months old. We have always had the arrangment of half the week with his father n the other half with me.
When i went back to work i asked his father to help, so he took him extra days when needed, and i coverd creche costs and money for anything he needed while at his dads.when i finished up at work we then went to court to 'legalise' our arrangement so each of us would know where we stood, this was not a problem for me as i felt we should both have legal rights and access to our son.
My sons father is trying to be a good dad, he is settled down and has recently had two new children with his partner. But for a number of years now my son has been unhappy going to stay at his fathers each week. He has mentioned to myself and his school that his fathers girlfriend has hit him, and when this was brought to his fathers attention he denied it ever happened. Our son has also shown behavioural issues in school, which have caused him to be seen by a child play therapist, the school councilor and the school educational therapist. He is an incredably bright child but his behaviour is holding him back.
He has said many times that he wants to live with me full time and he gets very upset when i tell him that he has to see his dad, as it is best for him to have a relationship with his dad, his partner and his two sisters.
His father has gotten aggressive and hostile before when i have mentioned this saying that he provides a better and more stable family for him than i do ( as i have gone back to college to get a degree, which he see's as selfish of me) and will not agree to what our son wants.
This is a very difficult situation as i want my son to have a good relationship with his father as well as his sisters!!
I would be grateful for any help or advise.
thank you.

Spear

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