Should I cut all contact?

LegacyUser

My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. Ever since then, we've been in almost constant contact and sometimes I have difficulty with this. I keep thinking about the good times and want to be back with her. I know this won't happen, so it sometimes brings me down somewhat.

Is it best to cut all contact with an ex until you get over them, or is it possible to keep in contact with them and get over them?

Abrean

I have to agree that cutting all contact really is best in the long run. Its hard to get over somone that you're constantly talking to.

Set yourself little goals like telling yourself you're not going to contact her (if it's you doing the contacting) until this day next week, then say the same thing next week and so on. Then try extending the time you tell yourself, so go to two weeks, then a month and then before you know it you wont even be trying not to contact her, you wont even be thinking about her.

It will be difficult, but if you can stick with it, it'l be for the best and help you move on. Good Luck.

LegacyUser

Thank you for your replies - the thing I'm also finding hard to understand why I'm finding it so difficult, when in reality we were only together two months. It shouldn't be this hard, but for some reason it is.

Abrean

Well I dont think anybody here can answer that, ok so you were only together two months, that doesn't make what you're feeling any less valid, if you spend a lot of time together you can become quite close in two months.

Dont try and understand it, its hard and thats ok. Just try and deal with it as best you can.

DangerMouse27

Cut cut cut... no texts,no emails no furry waves goodbye.

This is tough in the early stages but in the long run, waaaay better

singleindub

It's really tough but cutting contact is the only way to move on properly.

I know it's a cliche but if you try to keep busy it really does help. I have a friend that I text everytime I'm tempted to text my ex too and that helps as they remind me why it's a bad idea.

Good luck with it!

neveah

Just echoing the previous posts, cutting all contact is the only way to go. It's extremely hard to do but it's the best thing you can do for yourself.

Lucyx

why are you guys in so much contact? I'd totally understand if you were together for years as it can be so difficult to break away from someone having spent so much time with them but this isn't the case for you (I'm not being dismissive of what you're going through though )

To answer your Q......I can't give you a bigger YES.

tinkerbell

Yes, you'll never get over someone if you're talking to them every minute. Maybe at some point ye can be friends again but until you are over her, don't communicate with her at all.

Vicxas

Its a resounding cut all contacts im afraid, its not going to get better if you cant let go.