Have you ever cheated or been cheated on by a person?

Rds1989

And what were the consequences?

Saila

I did, but the husband got his own back by inserting a razor blade in her gee [while she was asleep] and when I came round next morning I left without my cock and unable to talk again

bonerm

I used to cheat a lot a Subbuteo. I'd flick the kick when my cousin wasn't looking. He never copped it.

FearDark

Cheated on, but never cheated myself.

dMaN24

Cheated on. Having issues with trust in new relationships.

Alter-Ego

Neither, to my knowledge.

I've recently become single and the amount of women I've met who are willing to cheat on their boyfriends/husbands is starting to tarnish the trust I have for women in general.

Asphyxia

Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.

Have you ever cheated on anyone?
No.

Cheating has ended relationships.
Trust breaks and has to be earned again.
It makes you paranoid for awhile.
It makes things very messy!

CK2010

Have been cheated on, would never cheat or be the person someone is cheating on their partner with. its a horrible thing to do. if you're in a relationship with someone and want to be with someone else break up with your partner, dont see the point in cheating, it doesnt really benefit anyone in the long run.

gargleblaster

Yes, I have been cheated on. The consequences were initially that I tried to forgive the incident and move on. Then they cheated some more, so we tried the 'open relationship' thing, didn't work. Then I got beat up when I finally left the relationship. Good times.

MagicMarker

No and not to my knowledge.

Tar.Aldarion

I would never cheat, I have been cheated on. It's annoying how it will always affect you and trust.
It turned out for the best as I got a way better gf /lick

TaraFoxglove

Haven't cheated and who knows if I have ever been cheated on.

TaraFoxglove

gargleblaster wrote: »

Yes, I have been cheated on. The consequences were initially that I tried to forgive the incident and move on. Then they cheated some more, so we tried the 'open relationship' thing, didn't work. Then I got beat up when I finally left the relationship. Good times.

Sorry to hear that!

Arnold Layne

Been cheated on, but never cheated. Although the opportunity arose loads of times once I wore a wedding ring

Saila

CK2010 wrote: »

Have been cheated on, would never cheat or be the person someone is cheating on their partner with. its a horrible thing to do. if you're in a relationship with someone and want to be with someone else break up with your partner, dont see the point in cheating, it doesnt really benefit anyone in the long run.

*ring ring*

"hi honey, yeah Ive met this hawt woman in the club tonight, so Im just telling you so I can shag her in a few minutes time!...so were finished ok"

*conscience clears*







reality is most are spur of the moment opportunities

AckwelFoley

Have i ever been cheated on?

No.

Have i cheated?

Yes
I cheated on my ex for about 2 of the 8 years we were togeather... i should have ended the relationship because it was going nowhere but was too much of a coward to do it. To this day i feel rather guilty for doing it...

Im older now and much happier with my soon to be wife, tbh - the thought of been with another women doesnt even interest me.. we are much more compatible and are more suited to each other.

Consequences are always there anyhow, if i did, i cam certain that i would lose my genitals, so if i do cheat,i will remove my bollocks and arrive home with them in a supermacs bag. Here these are yours, id rather cut them off myself than you tear at them indiscriminatley.

purrrfect1

Rds1989 wrote: »

And what were the consequences?

Have been cheated on
Never cheated on anyone

I tried to forgive & forget - but when he continued to cheat, I just had to call it a day.
I am now on my own, I find it very hard to trust men. Its surprising all the friends partners that have made passes at me. Its not nice to know what they are really like and to have to listen to my friends praise them at every opportunity.
Its an eye opener.......

username_eh?

gargleblaster wrote: »

Yes, I have been cheated on. The consequences were initially that I tried to forgive the incident and move on. Then they cheated some more, so we tried the 'open relationship' thing, didn't work. Then I got beat up when I finally left the relationship. Good times.

yup it happens

didnt cheat but they thought i did plenty of times i guess u hear so many stories these days its to difficult to trust!

gargleblaster

TaraFoxglove wrote: »

Sorry to hear that!

Ah thanks, water well under the bridge at this point. It did make me less able to trust, but what can you do but try to only judge individuals on their own actions?

I do wish cheaters would just only get involved with other cheaters though. Then we'd just have happy swinging couples and happy monogamous ones.

gargleblaster

username_eh? wrote: »

yup it happens

didnt cheat but they thought i did plenty of times i guess u hear so many stories these days its to difficult to trust!

Yeah I got that too, with another guy, the suspicion. And fair disclosure, I have cheated too. Eventually I did cheat on the suspicious guy. I won't rationalize my actions, it was wrong. Can't make up for it now though and would never do it again.

Oh and I also 'revenge' cheated on the guy that beat me up, after the first time he cheated on me. The creep never knew about the cheating, and the guy I cheated with was horrible in the sack. Great decision there. And being the truly logical person I am I didn't even see that as cheating, I considered it fair play. :rolleyes:

Mr Keek

I cheated on Girl once and felt horrible after, broke it off with her a couple of weeks later. From then on, I just broke if off with the girl first.

I'd hate to have it done to me, so I've never done it since. Anyone you are seeing deserves to be let down gently if you've got to the stage that you just not into them any more, no time for cheating or "I was drunk" crap.

Never been cheated on....I think/hope.

Toby Take a Bow

Many years ago, I cheated on a girl I was seeing. So, I arranged to meet up with her to break it off (if you've cheated on someone, whatever the 'rights' or wrongs of the matter, I see it as a sign that something isn't working). When we met in the pub, she told me she had something to say to me, it turned out she had cheated on me the very same night, and was meeting up with me to tell me it was over. Such a weird coincidence, I thought, and with a lighter heart I told her I had done the same thing. However, she didn't believe me, and said she thought it was a little bit pathetic that I would make up something like that.

CK2010

Saila wrote: »

*ring ring*

"hi honey, yeah Ive met this hawt woman in the club tonight, so Im just telling you so I can shag her in a few minutes time!...so were finished ok"

*conscience clears*


reality is most are spur of the moment opportunities

well in reality im with my partner and i know that i dont want to be with anyone else, if i ever felt that given the option id give in to spur of the moment opportunities id end it. whats the point of being in a relationship if you dont think you can respect them enough to say no to 'opportunities'. whatever about once off drunken mistakes that they genuinely didnt see coming (not that i agree with them either!) but if someone continually cheats on their partner i dont see the point. thats my opinion anyway, never said anyone had to agreee.

username_eh?

aww the revenge cheating...kinda did it myself but i was 17 and was never "official" with the person so it didnt count :P

Wibbs

FearDark wrote: »

Cheated on, but never cheated myself.

Ditto for me too, but then I went through a phase of being "the Other Man(tm) and what I found all too often was...

Alter-Ego wrote: »

the amount of women I've met who are willing to cheat on their boyfriends/husbands

... this. I encountered this a scary amount of times. Not so much cheat in the average sense as such. Basically not have me the bit on the side, but rather try me out as a possible replacement for their current squeeze. And how they would jump through hoops explain this to themselves to avoid any feelings of guilt was incredible at times to observe. There are a lot of "overlap" women cheaters out there who refuse to see it as such. One such woman I know, otherwise sound celebrates her anniversary with her current bloke with all sorts of romantic frippery, yet the date was the first time she shagged said bloke two hours after meeting him while still with the previous fiance.

is starting to tarnish the trust I have for women in general.

Well it did for me for a while too, but I also know women who would never, nor have never cheated and never did the overlap thing. Or who have in the past when young and dumb(like most of us ) and wouldnt today. I would IMHO say however that woman*'s (romantic)love is more conditional than a mans, is more fluid over time and requires more upkeep than a lot of men may think. Funny enough as friends I would trust more women in my life. As lovers I would be far more cautious.


* Obviously I'm talking generalisations here.

gargleblaster

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

However, she didn't believe me, and said she thought it was a little bit pathetic that I would make up something like that.

Is it ok if I laughed at that? It's the egocentricity of it that strikes me as funny.


And yes username I was 18 at the time, so maybe we can use youthful capriciousness as an excuse. :P

Toby Take a Bow

gargleblaster wrote: »

Is it ok if I laughed at that? It's the egocentricity of it that strikes me as funny.

No, I found it funny too. I found that the more you argue, the more the other person will think you're descending to ever lower pits of patheticness. The ego of her did make me realise our breaking-up was probably for the best (if the mutual cheating hadn't already alerted me to that).

InTheTrees

I thought this thread was about Anglo Irish Bank...

username_eh?

Wibbs wrote: »

Funny enough as friends I would trust more women in my life. As lovers I would be far more cautious.

ya im the same i think alot of people trust the opposite sex more as friends for some reason

yes gargleblaster we will i couldnt even see myself doing anything like that now its scary how you still feel the same but you mature and grow up without even realising:eek:

Wompa1

Never cheated but have been cheated on by a girl who I actually had the conversation with beforehand (She had previously been cheated on by a boyfriend who knocked up another girl she knew)

Conversation being if either of us ever felt inclined to cheat we should break up first....unfortunately I didn't realize for a while that the guy that cheated on her was himself cheated on....by her!! I think some people are just scumbags..she's a cheater and always will be.

username_eh?

that is one load of baggage! :eek:

themandan6611

i have been cheated on the last 16 years by this country, recently by people called Bertie, Cowen and other government clowns

flyaway.

I have been cheated on.

It hurt a lot but to be honest, I was just glad to know what an idiot he was before I wasted any more of my time on him.

I would never, ever cheat on someone. It's just such an awful thing to do.

we'llallhavetea_old

yes and yes, i was only a young un at the time and a bit of a mentalist cnut.

i wouldnt do it now though. if i love someone i try to avoid hurting them.

beano345

never cheated but have been cheated on,im very wary about trusting someone since, having seen what friends have gone through and looking at girl friends that have cheated,the way they try and justify it,the lack of accountability on their behalf and lack of guilt.makes me think twice about ever getting married

Jerrica

cheated on a boyf when I was much younger, awful thing to do and I deserved everything I got after it. The thought of doing it has never crossed my mind since. Hasn't happened to me as far as I know, and even if it did I think I'm happier being ignorant at this stage

ArtyM

Not cheated, dont think I have been cheated on. Would probably prefer not to know (if the relationship was over) as it would really get to me.

FTGFOP

Rds1989 wrote: »

Have you ever been cheated on by a person?

Goats only.




Expected something like this as first post. You grow soft AH!

--LOS--

no and no