Just needed to tell someone.

LegacyUser

Hi,
Thanks for reading this,kinda needed to get some thoughts off my chest and look for a little advice at the same time. I have been on a well known free dating site for a while and pretty
much don't get any mail might get one the odd time but in general it's very quiet anyhow
Yesterday i got a email from a man, a 50 year old married man with kids who wanted too meet me "and see how things go" i didn't respond because i'm not gay never found men attractive, but i have been single for two years now and although i have been on a number off dates i never get a second one.
I miss affection i am a very affectionate kinda holdy hands type off guy,but i always get the nice guy syndrome. With the email i got yesterday for a while today i actually thought about meeting him because i miss affection and stuff so much, i know it would be wrong but i guess what i'm asking people is, once it goes so long between relationships do they ever question there own sexuality? i am a shy person to begin with so meeting people isn't always easy,but i have made the effort and joined a number off meet up groups and stuff but
i just miss having someone there, being able to kiss and hug someone, it can be taken for granted so much by people.

gypsy_rose

OP I know exactly how you feel, sometimes it's like you just haven't had some physical contact for so long that getting it from just about anywhere would make you feel better. Are you living away from your family? Sometimes I go back to visit mine if I'm feeling down and it always cheers me up and doesn't make me feel so alone. Regarding the present situation I think you're better off not meeting this guy because as you say yourself you're not gay, and by the sounds of it you do sound a good bit younger, it could just turn into a very awkward encounter. Are you in college? I know you said you have tried to join groups and things but societies can be good for just having someone to meet up with; for example I'm in the lgbt in my college and it can be so nice just to see a few people for a coffee morning. I do know that on boards.ie they meet ups for beers and things like that, maybe you could go along and see how you get on?
I think maybe you could just be in a bit of a dry spell, just concentrate on having fun with friends and new people and see what happens.
All the best

LegacyUser

Thanks for the reply gypsy_rose. I'm 37 the guy is 50. I'm not in college i work 3 days at week but the guys there wouldn't be into the same type off stuff as myself and are a lot older then me. I live at home with my parents i'm saving for my own place and hope to have something by the end of the year. My parents are elderly and i try and be there as much as i
can for them but still feel very isolated. But thanks

gypsy_rose

If you're an active member of boards I know they do have boards meet ups and some of them are for specific groups e.g. music etc, I've never been to one but I'm guessing they would be a good way to meet people

eternal

Meeting this guy will not be a good idea.He wants no strings sex.Plus hes married ,what about his wife?
You will hate yourself after I swear.
I dont know waht to say really ,Im single too and havent had much luck lately ,But Id prefer to be on myown than having seedy sex with a same sax person ,especially when im hetro.I have had women come onto me online and couples .the thought of it repulses me.They are looking for sex not affection.