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LegacyUser

Hi Everyone,

First time poster here. I am very worried at the moment that I may be pregnant. I am not on the pill as I have not been seeing anyone for a while. How and ever, I slept with someone 3 weeks and 3 days ago as I had been drinking and got carried away. I had finished my period about two to three days prior to this. He did use a condom and I stopped things halfway through as I did not want to go through with it. He did not ejaculate.

I had no concerns about being pregnant up until a week ago. I have been extremely bloated and my breasts have become very swollen and quite tender. I have experienced very mild cramping and heavy discharge. The heavy discharge is quite usual and my breasts tend to swell to some degree before my period arrives. Although I feel like they're are swelling alot more than usual.

The reason I am so worried is due to an awful experience two years ago where I fell pregnant due to being raped and had to have an abortion. As a result I have a propensity to worry about pregnancy in an extreme way and, in addition, I am naturally the worrying type which makes matters worse. If i am pregnant I know what I would do, and would not hesitate, as I am certain that it is something I could not deal with and it is certainly not something that I want. But the thoughts of going through the whole procedure again is overwhelming. I am going to wait and see if I get my period this week, as it is due, and if not I will take a test next week.

Some additional info. I have been quite stressed lately due to exams. My periods are regular but not like clockwork.

Not sure why I am posting but need to get it out in someway and don't feel like confiding in someone else as if worse comes to worse I will prefer to deal with it on my own and not have anyone else know.

I just hope that my paranoia is what is getting to me but I may just have the worst luck in the world. Either or, I will deal with it. Sorry for the long post. Just wordering if anyone else may be dealing with something similar at the moment. Thank you.

Neyite

There is no point in telling you not to worry - you will anway. You can get early pregnancy tests that can test up to 5 days early - I think first response ones and clearblue digital are good ones, but they are expensive. When do you think that your period is due? You may find that you would be able to take a test towards the end of this week.

The symptoms you describe are the same for periods as for pregnancy. Some women are pregnant for several weeks and the only symptom that they have is a missed period.

Work out your dates, and get a test. Then sort out contraception for so that you dont put yourself through this again.

Best of Luck

I am a friend

As the others said the chances are you arent pregnant. Would you consider alternative types of contraception (e.g. injection) as well as condoms to be 150% sure. Maybe talk to your doctor once you get this over and done with.

Am sorry to hear about your rape and all you had to go through. You sound like a real survivor so hats off to you.

ilikepears

hi there is the clearbue pregnancy test which u can get. it can show if ur pregnant up to four days before your period is due. its not 100% accurate so u should get the 2 pack n u can do one now n the other when ur period is due.
u should try not to worry urself too much (i know its easier said then done) but unfortunately u can't change anything now.
I really know how ur feeling cos i was in ur position three weeks ago. however i didn't even think i could be pregnant till i was 5 days late so i didnt have to play the waiting game which is probably the most stressful time.

Ickle Magoo

Hi ilikepears, I see you are new to boards, welcome! :cool:

Could I please direct you to the forum charter here with regards to the use of text speak on this forum.

Many thanks.

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

OP here. Thank you so much for your replies. I really appreciate them so much. It's nice to think I'm not completely alone I think using one of the clearblue or first response tests towards the end of the week might be a good idea because waiting is simply tortuous. I'm pretty sure I should be due my period at the moment/any day now.

I have had the idea to go back on the pill for a while now. My reason for not being on it is due to the fact that prior to this experience I only ever slept with people who I was in a relationship with, and when I was taking all precautions. Therefore whenever I wasn't in a relationship I would tend to go off the pill. But things do happen, and I am kicking myself for being so stupid and putting myself in this situation.

If it turns out I'm not pregnant I will be going onto something asap as this is just not worth it. I will let you know how it all pans out, either way. Thanks again.

LegacyUser

OP here,

Still no period, breasts the same and vaginal discharge still present. I am driving myself mad, thinking one minute that I couldn't possibly be pregnant, to thinking that I am experiencing pretty identical symptoms to those I had when I was pregnant the last time around. Think I will take a test on Friday. I am not able for this anymore.

C-J

Op, if you stress your period may be delayed. I didn't have a period for 4 months when i was doing my finals in college!! X

LegacyUser

OP please try not to worry it doesn't sound like there's much chance of you being pregnant at all, i went through the same thing once over a similar situation, i knew the chances of me being pregnant were virtually nil but i still managed to freak myself out so much that i actually managed to delay my period by almost 3 weeks!

You should take a test ASAP, there's no point in waiting if your period is due in the next few days, if you get a first response test they can test up to 4 days before your period is due.

All the best

eternal

I wll give you some advice.Going to a GP is a much better thing to do .they will test your urine and this is almost foolproof.Its better than tests you do yourselves plus they will talk to you and help you.
Another option is a family planning clinic.They will bring you in ,ask you no personal questions and do a test there and then.I do believe that it would be the same as a gp ,almost 100% accurate .They will also advise you on how long before taking the test and so forth.
Sometimes when we think we have a certain aliment or think we are pregnant ,we look at every little thing personified.You might be over reacting to symptoms.This is not your fault.You went through a traumatic time and are entitled to be worried.Good luck .

IrishEyes19

Op, you poor thing, apart from all this, you sound like you've been through a lot and this is no help.

First thing is to try and relax, although its near impossible with something like this. Although it wasn't pregnancy I was worrying about, I once stressed myself out so much, that mine was nearly 11 days late because I was so worried and then the paranoia set in thinking somehow immaculate conception had taken place :rolleyes:

I had all the symptoms you described there a few years later when I did get a scare. Sore breasts, ect, tired, mood swings. but I was so scared I didnt talk to anyone. Eventually after I was nearly a week over, I broke down in front of a friend and five minutes later, I got my answer that I wasnt.

Now nothing is ever 100 percent accurate, so no one here can say for sure that you arent, however most likely you are not, as biologically, it would be more difficult. However, try to relax yourself and it will most likely come. Also perhaps look into extra contraception methods. I didnt come across what age you are, but if you want to be discreet, college doctors are great, and also it would be much cheaper. Best of luck with everything and try to relax. Try not to focus on every symtom you are feeling, stress just makes the symptoms feel much worse and more pronounced than they actually are. Funny way our brains work really. Take care

solovely

Feelingscared, as everyone else has said here, the chances of you being pregnant are almost none.

The bigger issue here seems to be you coping with past issues and freaking yourself out. Have you received counselling? Would you consider it? I'm sure it can help you deal with stress like this and figure out coping mechanisms. It sounds like overall, you are doing really well dealing with such a massive issue and hats off to you. It must have been such a tremendous ordeal and I'm sure situations like this bring it all back up. I hope your period arriving will help put you at ease somewhat.

LegacyUser

I had a pregnancy scare last year where I absolutely 100% convinced myself that I was pregnant, after stupidly having unprotected sex. I was so stressed and worried about it that my period ended up being about 10 days late, further fuelling the fire! It's hard not to be stressed and terrified, but it's pretty unlikely that you're pregnant.

dublingal80

Hi Op

Why are you letting yourself worry until Friday before you do a test instead of just buying one now and getting it over and done with? I agree with everyone else regarding your chances of being pregnant, but just do it today and at least you can put your mind at ease if you arent, or if you are pregnant at least you can figure out what to do.

LegacyUser

Hi everyone,

OP here with an update. I couldn't wait until tomorrow so bit the bullet and took two clearblue tests this morning. The first didn't work and the second one indicated a definitive 'not pregnant' result. So it seems I am in the clear for now. I am beyond relieved. Rang the doctor immediately after the result and scheduled an appointment for Monday to discuss contracaption. I am not going through this again for anything.

To the poster who said that I may have underlying issues regarding my previous experience, I do believe that there are definitely some residual fear as a result. It was traumatising but my way of dealing with it was to put it out of my mind and carry on. Adding to my irrational worry I think is the fact that I took the MAP the morning after the rape and obviously it didn't work. It was difficult but I had a very understanding and trustworthy boyfriend of the time who helped me through. I really think I should talk to someone. I'll bring this up at the doctors on monday for sure. It may have affected me more than I realise.

I would like to thank ye all. You don't know how much this has been of an outlet for me in the past couple of days. Thank you so much.