Moving from "Casual" thing to something more

LegacyUser

Hi All
I will try to keep this brief. Met a lovely guy about 6 weeks ago now and we have been "together" ever since and everything has been fine. We have spent alot of time together, weekends away, family dos, been to gigs, both met eachothers parents and other family members. We have been out together loads, both stayed in each others houses and when we do we always spend the next day together aswell etc.

I think its a girl thing that I am thinking about this, but we havent had any talks about where we are going etc, are we going out? Just casual? or is it leading to something more?
I know I just need to talk to him about it - but how do I broach this subject without frightening him off?

It feels like its a bit more than just casual but part of me cant help thinking hes just in it for the sex but then i think about the good times we have and how well we get on and that he'd hardly still be around 6 weeks later if it was just for that.

So im basically just looking for any advise from anyone who's been in something similar and how to move from this confusing stage to something a bit more secure feeling?
Thanks

I am a friend

how do i do it? wrote: »

We have spent alot of time together, weekends away, family dos, been to gigs, both met eachothers parents and other family members. We have been out together loads, both stayed in each others houses and when we do we always spend the next day together aswell etc.

You dont need to ask him. He is showing that he is into you by doing all the above. There is no need for 'the chat'.... I just cringe everytime I hear of someone asking a guy (she is alredy sleeping with) if they are an item. No offense but it just seems so needy. He is acting like your bf so just leave it until he starts to act like he is not your bf...

Concentrate instead on whether or not he is compatible for you. Horse before the cart etc...

Miss Fluff

It is VERY early days. Everything would suggest that you are his girlfriend. If it feels right then it is right. If you were a casual fling I don't think he'd be introducing you to his family. BUT, if anything it seems to be moving at break-neck speed, six weeks seems very early to me to have met family etc but different strokes etc.

Like @I am a Friend said, rather than rushing to have that conversation, why don't you take this time to make absolutely sure he is compatible with you.

Neyite

If you have met the parents, its not casual . Any guy I know will not bring just anyone home to meet the mammy, only if he feels that there is potential there. (and in your case, it seems he does)

Dont get too hung up on labels - he sounds like he is really happy spending time with you and that is what is the important thing here. Dont focus on the destination so much that you miss the scenery along the way, savour the journey.

Fentdog84

maybe send him a text, saying ''whats the story, so are we definitely going out?'' had a gf before did something similiar after about the same time and I suppose it was a validation thing, I would probably never have raised the subject otherwise. But i didnt mind and said yes, it was a quite nice moment actually. You are entitled to know where you stand, even if its only been 6 weeks, its time enough.

LegacyUser

Hi
Op here. Just wanted to say thanks for the replys.
@ Fentdog84 I would love to send him a text like that but I dont think I will as I would prefer if I am going to mention it at all, to do it in person.
I think I will just leave it for now to be honest. I think the replies who said it looks like hes happy to be spending time with me etc are right and Im doing the normal (for me) worrying thing instead of just going with the flow. (I know I should just let things happen!)
When I met his parents, it wasnt a very formal or official thing so it was grand and relaxed and just spent a couple of hours with them.
I do think we are fairly compatible - Im hoping anyway because I think we like each other