Mens Fashion Help

cenvuza7fg9kx5

Hi all,

I'm new to boards and this is my first thread. Anyway, recently I lost a good bit of weight, not that I was fat, just overweight. I went from 14st to somewhere below 12st now and put on a bit of muscle. I was unemployed and had nothing better to do than go to the gym, although I really enjoy it now.

Now that my body has changed quite a bit, I need new clothes. I never really cared for my appearance, so I just wore plain jeans and a t-shirt and maybe a cheap jumper from pennys. I hate shopping and usually when I go I just buy the same stuff, nothing out of my comfort zone. I would like to feel as confident in the clothes I ware as the confidence I got from getting a better body. So I need help.

I would like to know what women on boards find attractive in a man, clothes wise. Feel free to post links to pics. Thank You

cenvuza7fg9kx5

I should probably ad I'm mid 20's and about 5'10.

Also I'd be looking for something to wear on a night out and something for work (just clerical work nothing formal)

Well it's hard to give advice on what to wear without an idea of what sort of look you're going for (you used to wear plain clothes, so you could be going any direction from there, rocker/indie/jock ad infinitum). So I'll just give some basic pointers on what I like on guys.

Shirts! A nicely fitting shirt with nice material. Buttons are important, don't have it buttoned to the top, but when guys have their shirt so undone that they look like they're trying to show off cleavage, it's really not nice. I'd say collar button + 1 undone. Long sleeved but rolled up to just before the elbow. (sorry for the lack of pics, I'm about to go out). Not baggy jeans, but something that doesn't show the shape of your legs (although there's a whole thread on that on this forum).

Strangely, 90% of the girls I know seem to be magically attracted to guys in beanies. Obviously that's more a t-shirt/hoodie situation rather than with shirts, but most of the girls I know really seem to go for it. It's as if hiding your hair gives you some sort of mystique. I don't get it myself (in fact I find very often the beanie guys are tools, but hey, a lot of girls go for that too).

I know it's hard not to look good when you're Tom Welling, but this without the jacket:

cenvuza7fg9kx5

Thanks for the advice true-or-false

I wasn't asking for a particular style as I don't really have one, anyway I want to know what women find attractive, what style or clothes they like.

I definitely want be wearing a beanie for one thing its definitely not me and your right about the type of tools who wear them.

paul2641

Maverick Thundering Octogenarian wrote: »

Thanks for the advice true-or-false

I wasn't asking for a particular style as I don't really have one, anyway I want to know what women find attractive, what style or clothes they like.

I definitely want be wearing a beanie for one thing its definitely not me and your right about the type of tools who wear them.

You're great for the ole stereotyping a piece of clothing shouldn't brand someone .

cenvuza7fg9kx5

You're great for the ole stereotyping a piece of clothing shouldn't brand someone

Sorry my bad! Anyway she said it first, you must be a beanie wearer are you?

Looking at another forum I saw women complain about the way Irish men dress, but when I set up a thread asking for help I get 1 response???

reallyrose

It can take a while for people to formulate a response.

I'm not going down the "I like men to dress like this, so you should too"

You probably don't know yourself now, with all the weight loss. You'll be able to wear different clothes than you could when you were heavier.

I decided to change my style a while back and I spent ages looking at what other women were wearing when I was out and about. If I liked an outfit on someone, I take note of what she's wearing, how the outfit is put together.
Then I try to work out if it will suit me!
I've found a few little style things from copying what I've seen other people wearing.

Perhaps you could do something similar? If you see a guy wearing something you think looks good, see what way his clothes are put together. And go from there!

Failing that, a nice shirt and a bit of stubble always looks well, I think!

cenvuza7fg9kx5

Saw this on another thread:

http://www.fashionbeans.com/2011/mens-fashion-what-women-want/

This is what I was kind of looking for.

@reallyrose I'm not looking for a women to tell me what to wear and I never really gave a thought as to what I wore before, whatever was simple and cheap! I'm just trying to gauge what women liked and see if I could get some inspiration from them. Of course I would only ware something I liked and was comfortable in. I have begun to look to at what other men in Dublin ware but to be honest I would have to agree with the women, Irish men are not the best dressed. And as for the faded jeans and nice shirt, everyone wears that to a nightclub so not exactly anything new there. Anyway what do you conceder a nice shirt?

bdo

Seeing as you think Irish men are not the best dressed, spend some time on Uk based websites so, instead of Irish ones, like Topman, Bolo Clothing, Republic or Asos ... and I expect you'll see lots of types of clothes that women will like ..and clothes not that all Irish men are wearing.

Or get some advice for Cillian on his blog Male-Mode, an Irishman talking about men's fashion ...

Joe10000

You need to wear clothes because you like them not because you think somebody else will, find your own look.

cenvuza7fg9kx5

I think I wasted my time with this thread

Anyway I wasn't trying to get someone to get me a style or whatever, or what I should dress like, just their opinions on what they liked for inspiration. As I have already stated I would not wear something I was not comfortable wearing. Only one person has given any useful advice!

If a women came to me to get advice on a car to buy, I wouldn't turn around to her and say go find a car you like. I would give her some information on the qualities of say a BMW, like they are well constructed, stylish but a bit pricey etc etc.

Maverick Thundering Octogenarian

Maverick Thundering Octogenarian wrote: »

she said it first

Hah, I did, but I masked it with the word often, and some cleverly place brackets...

I'm sneaky...

Sorry the thread didn't really go your way. I was just going to add, that it really is true that Irish men tend not to be well dressed. I was out walking with my boyfriend this morning and we stopped to give some Europeans directions, and as we were leaving he said to me "is it that Irish men dress really badly or is it that Europeans just dress really well?". I said it was both.

Anyway, definitely look outside Ireland for inspiration, but to be honest, if a guy is too fashionable I find it unattractive. I know, it sounds like no one can win, but I mean stuff like wearing scarves that aren't warm, tight low cut V-neck t-shirts etc. Like over the top trying to be fashionable type stuff. I'm so accustomed to Irish men's fashion I think I associate manliness with plain dressing!

As for what's a nice shirt? Basically your run-of-the-mill kind.
This is nice (although blue shirts always remind me of primary school):

Whereas the over-starchy, easily creased-looking almost flannel shirts look quite drab after only a few washes, like this sort of material

Twee.

There's nothing wrong with plain jeans OP, as long as they're good quality and a good fit. I recommend Levi's. They are expensive, but they look great. The block colour (no bleaches, pre worn in decoration) is generally more flattering.

I love long sleeve shirts on guys. I would in fact say I HATE short sleeve shirts Especially one like the one true-or-false posted! They don't look stylish and do look cheap. I actually really like the blue shirt above. With the sleeves rolled up, paired with some nice trainers, or brown leather shoes, a pair of Levi's and a brown belt, there's a lovely, fresh, clean look for you.

Keep it simple, go in and try stuff on, get a feel for what you like and dislike. Check out Asos for a mix of reasonably priced and brand name clothing and accessories for men.

OldGoat

OP you really have to start looking at men and what they wear. Don't be afriad to ask strangers where tey got theri shoes, shirt, trousers. Start to spot stuff you'd be comfortable wearing and then start to build a wardrobe.
Think of your wardrobe as you were at 14 stone. It was difficult at the start but as time passed you lost weight and felt better for it to the point where you enjoy yourself training. Style is the same, dificult at first but as your wardrobe grows you'll gain confidence and feel beter for it.

You need to get some good basic building blocks in your wardrobe.
Jeans - casual day to day stuff. As Twee said go for proper unbleached, undistressed mid width jeans. Remember you are building a foundation here, there will be plenty of time to buy fashion pieces like skinnies of flairs or ripped torn crap later.
Casual shirts. Get a few plain polo shirts. Great with jeans, suitable for the pub or of for casual work.
Get a good pair of shoes and boots and learn to keep them well.
Buy fashion trainers if you must though I'm sure you appricate that trainers are made for training.
Get a jacket. Get a suit. Get a few dress shirts. Get a classic overcoat for the winter.
Thats all stuff that will live in your wardrobe for a few years without dating. Now you'll know that you have something for most occasions and it'll be time to start looking at fashionable one time pieces if thats what pleases you.
But always ALWAYS look at what other men wear and decide for yourself what YOU like rather then what others think you should wear. Look up mens style blogs and read lots of different ones. You don't have to dress as the blogs tell you but you will pick up ideas that will make you feel good. Check out The Satorialist just to see the sheer range of styles around the world. Don't limit yourself to Topshop and RiverIsland, you'll just end up like the rest of the sheeple.

If I had my way I'd have you dressing in 3 piece suits but thats MY taste and style, not yours. Go find yours for yourself. If you need help styling with anything then ask us here.