I masturbate, is that normal?

Weetbix

Do I have a problem?
Am 17 and I masterbate like 4 times a week, I stop
Watching porn like 3 weeks ago just incase that might be an addiction.
The odd thing is am a girl am 89 percent sure girls my age arent meant to do that.
Because of this I feel akward talking to the nice looking girls(posh looking) in my school because am not good looking and on top of that I masterbate, which makes me feel dirty.
Anytime I think of any thing sexual I get horny am a little afaird that I wouldnt be able to control my body and soon ill start to touch myself outside my house.

MitchKoobski

You're perfectly normal OP, and you don't have any problem at all!

But if you start touching yourself outdoors...yeah...that might be a problem...

Morag

Some people have higher sex drives then others,
Yes girls/women masturbate and for some it's daily,
Yes it can be weird and strange when you become more aware of it
so you just have to learn to manage it,

For some women it's part of their morning routine when they wake up or when they are going to bed.
As long as it's your not missing deadlines, or shirking chores and your doing in a private place
then honestly it's not an issue and normal.

mpdg

Weetbix wrote: »

Do I have a problem?
Am 17 and I masterbate like 4 times a week, I stop
Watching porn like 3 weeks ago just incase that might be an addiction.
The odd thing is am a girl am 89 percent sure girls my age arent meant to do that.
Because of this I feel akward talking to the nice looking girls(posh looking) in my school because am not good looking and on top of that I masterbate, which makes me feel dirty.
Anytime I think of any thing sexual I get horny am a little afaird that I wouldnt be able to control my body and soon ill start to touch myself outside my house.

Masturbating is completely fine. In fact, if you ever plan on being/are sexually active, knowing your body that way can lead to a better sex life.
Female masturbation is either ignored or thought of as weird in our wonderfully repressed society but that does not take away from the fact that it is awesome. It is not wrong, it does not reflect badly on you and you should never feel "dirty" because you do it.

I wouldn't worry about the porn. If it was interfering with your daily life then you should reduce the amount of time you spend watching it, but otherwise, work away.

You can control yourself outside. We all get horny in inappropriate situations, but that doesn't mean that we throw ourselves to the floor and get off then and there in the local library in order to relieve ourselves.

Whether you are good-looking or not is no indication of the type of person you are. Mass media puts such an emphasis on looking a certain way, usually to make you feel crap so you'll buy x product in order to "improve" yourself. Screw that. It is possible to learn to feel better about yourself. Work on separating the genetic chance that was your face from the things about you that actually matter - your personality and how you treat others - in your mind. Talk to people who are funny, smart and nice - not those who you think are posh or pretty. You should seek out friends whose primary attraction is not wearing fancy clothes and being conventionally attractive.
I hope you feel better soon:).

x Purple Pawprints x

Masturbation is perfectly normal for both girls and boys so don't worry OP. As Sharrow says for some it's a part of their daily routine, it just depends on how high your sex drive is. The important thing is that you enjoy yourself and be safe. You can control your urges when you're outside your house, it's not a great idea to start masturbating in public tbh.

LegacyUser

Don't worry about it. I masturbate most mornings and sometimes evenings. Nothing wrong with enjoying yourself at all.

iguana

Weetbix wrote: »

The odd thing is am a girl am 89 percent sure girls my age arent meant to do that.

If anything I would have thought 4 times a week was on the low side at your age. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating as much as you like. It's perfectly healthy and as has been said is a good way for you learn about your likes and dislikes so you are more comfortable and confident when it comes to sex.

Just make sure you stick to doing it discreetly.

LegacyUser

Hi OP, there are lots of girls who do it and deny it! I personally did that until I was about 25 ... I think I was too embarrassed to say it because almost everyone else I knew said that they didn't. I'd say it is far far more common than you think, but I think there some bit of a thing about girls saying that they don't. Many years later, I've talked to friends about it and have found that most do - several times a week. And I'm not entirely sure that I believe the ones who still steadfastly deny it!

Don't worry about it! - as long as it is in private.

Gannicus

Weetbix wrote: »

Do I have a problem?
Am 17 and I masterbate like 4 times a week, I stop
Watching porn like 3 weeks ago just incase that might be an addiction.
The odd thing is am a girl am 89 percent sure girls my age arent meant to do that.

Yes its okay. girls tend not to talk about it. plus you're only 17 you're finishing puberty and you're hormones are all over the place too. you're also curious about your body and there's nothing wrong with that or self pleasure. Those other girls are more than likely doing it too.

Weetbix

Thank you guys some much I actually thought I was committing the biggest sin EVER!

Daegerty

Keep up the good work.

Did you just say "sin"?!

It's perfectly normal.

beks101

Totally 100% normal OP. I'd imagine as you get older you'll become more comfortable with your sexuality and begin to enjoy it more. And any girls you meet who say they don't - they're either lying or massively missing out