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Best friends ex

  • 11-05-2011 5:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Guys, just wondering the general opinion on this...

    A real good friend (known each other since toddlers, mothers are best pals) broke up with his girlfriend 2 years ago. She moved to England to study and I moved to the same city a year later for work. I was always good pals with her, going back to when he was with her but recently we've started seeing each other, it's a very casual thing so far... She's a great girl and I like spending time with her... but am I being a b**tard? Are there rules about these things?

    She hasn't mentioned him and neither have I, it's the proverbial elephant in the room. I need to go back to Dublin next month for my mothers 50th and I don't know how I can face him, I feel really guilty...

    For what it's worth, he broke up with her and he has a new girlfriend now...

    I don't know what to think...


Comments

  • #2
    amen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,781 ✭✭✭amen


    Go for it. Its been two years and he has moved on.


  • #3
    newbee22
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    How long were they going out for before they broke up?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    newbee22 wrote: »
    How long were they going out for before they broke up?

    About year and a half.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Meet up with your pal, explain you've been seeing this girl as a friend, and are thinking of taking things up to a more serious level.
    Admit it'll be awkward, but do NOT apologise- he's had 2years to get back together with her, which he clearly hasn't, and to all intents and purposes, he has "moved on".
    And bring it up with your new gf, it'll only be the elephant in the room if you let it be.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    The rule goes "you shoundnt date an friends ex" but that is a load of rubbish,she is now an ex,the other bloke have moved on,if you two are in love,stay together,and if he even raises an issue just tell him straight he is with new gf now.

    Everyone is an "ex of someone".

    wish you all the best.


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