Feeling Confused

LegacyUser

I feeling really low at t minute,my girlfriend off 2 years moved all stuff out of my house on monday,i mean not a trace that she was ever living there,

We have not really been getting on tis last month or so due to the fact that she had extra curricular stuff on,I am not t possesive kind but she got really into it and never showed me any attention at all,she works during t week and in a pub sum weekends,i had t feeling she was avoiding me

Her show finished on sunday night and we headed out after with a group of friends,but she had committed 2 work in the pub this week and i let her know i wasnt happy about it on sunday morning

I headed away on sunday as i had stuff on,wished her good luck for t show and arrived that night 2 cheer her on,we hardly spoke two words 2 each other and i went home early on sunday night as i had work early on monday,woke on monday mornin and found she hadnt came home,i sent her a text 2 say if she wasnt happy 2 move her stuff out however i text later 2 say i would like 2 speak 2 her before she decided to move her stuff out,when i came home at 3 everything was gone,I was devasted

We have been texting since and she has said that she has been unhappy for a while as she didnt let her feelings be known 2 me when we had a couple of stupid silly arguments.

There is nobody else involved she has assured me however she has indicated that she wants 2 be alone for a while,we are meeting on friday 2 discuss everything.

A bit of advice would be welcome,I will never win awards for being the best boyfriend however apart from t past month and a few small arguments we have been getting on great.She has accpted that she should have let me know how she felt after t arguments.I dont know how we got to tis position

I don't know what advice you are looking for, you told her to move her stuff out and she did. I'm sorry to hear it but if you are meeting up on friday and discussing well, that's it. best of luck.

Motley Crue

bluewolf wrote: »

I don't know what advice you are looking for, you told her to move her stuff out and she did. I'm sorry to hear it but if you are meeting up on friday and discussing well, that's it. best of luck.

Pretty much sums it up

LegacyUser

Yeah she has said that she cant see us getting back together,i know i asked her 2 move out but i asked her if she wasnt happy 2 move out.i reacted badly cos she didnt cum home on sunday night

LegacyUser

sorry about the confusion in my post

what im trying to ask is in peoples opinion is that cos she is hurt that she is saying she wants to be alone for a while or has she falling out of love with me

Vicxas

If she doesnt see you two getting back together, i think thats your answer, friday may be just about closure.

Pandora2

[Her show finished on sunday night and we headed out after with a group of friends,but she had committed 2 work in the pub this week and i let her know i wasnt happy about it on sunday morning

I headed away on sunday as i had stuff on,wished her good luck for t show and arrived that night 2 cheer her on,we hardly spoke two words 2 each other and i went home early on sunday night as i had work early on monday,woke on monday mornin and found she hadnt came home,i sent her a text 2 say if she wasnt happy 2 move her stuff out however i text later 2 say i would like 2 speak 2 her before she decided to move her stuff out,when i came home at 3 everything was gone,I was devasted]

You let her know that you weren't happy about her working?? You headed off on Sunday 'cos you had stuff on? Bit of a double standard going on there.....perhaps I'm wrong but is your schedule more important than hers?? And, I am afraid if she moved everything in the space of a few hours A. She already had somewhere to go and B. She really wanted to go...Who would do that fast a flit if they were not already mentally out the door??

LegacyUser

Hey people we had our chat last nite

She has said that they way i behave when i drink is a problem,its not that i have a drink problem its that i have a problem when i drink,she said that she could never enjoy a nite out as she was always watching me and my behaviour,i only maybe drink once every 3 weeks but knew that i had a problem for years that i always shruuged off,she admits that she never confronted me bout it and we never dealt with it but she seen her oppurtunity 2 move out and go home for a while,

She has said she needs time but even though i have promised that i will seek help bout t way i drink she said shed always be worried bout it,i have said that if it happened again id pack her bags for her and never every expect another chance,i have asked her for just one chance 2 make this work,

I didnt want 2 be selfish about it but i know i can sort my problem out cos i know how this breakup has made me feel and i told her im not going 2 give up on our relationship easy.

I have prayed that she can get t strenght and trust 2 give me and her a chance.

I do want to be torturing her but has anybody anybody advice on how i can help give her strenght and trust 2 make this work,i know t old cliche of giving it time

Many Thanks

Pandora2

One day at a time my friend:o

LegacyUser

after taking time to myself at the weekend i can now totally relate to how she was feeling and saying on friday.I would have done anything 2 have got our relationship back on course but now i feel totally different,

I think i may have taken all of the blame when i shouldnt have,not that i blame her but there is 2 people in a relationship who need 2 work at it.

is it right now 2 feel totally different 2 day than tis time last week.I know i asked for strength but dont feel anything towards her now,i feel like i dont know her at all.I know we can be friends but even if she wants to give it another chance i dont think i want to.

Do people think it might change in a few months time or was it that it wasnt meant 2 be

LegacyUser

Well I have decided to cut all contact with my ex as she cannot she us getting back 2gether and i thing a clean break would be the best,

I know i will learn from this relationship but will never understand how people can just say its over and theres no hope of things ever working out,but its a funny old life

Cheers

DangerMouse27

Well done Op...its tough to avoid contact but well worth it. Get yourself out and about seeing other people pronto, best thing for ya.

LegacyUser

hello guys,

I always wait to see these type of threads being giving an update.Its now nearly 4 months since our breakup and a lot of things have happened.

I mentioned guys about that i had a certain problem with alcohol,well i drank for 6 weekends after the break up and decided that alcohol wasnt making me feel any better.i still go out and socialise but drinking is now a fairly big no no.its just a shame that it took breaking up for me to finally sort out my drinking,the only person i stopped drinking was for me.

i have remained in contact with my ex as i always harboured hopes of getting back together,we went to the cinema last weekend,she give a big hint to me about going as she was always backwards in coming forwards so i said if she didnt get a better offer id take her,we agreed we would do it again sometime.

however i sent her a message to say that i couldnt do it as i have to try and move on and meet somebody who feels the same way about me as i do about them,i told her not to apologise as she cant make herself feel something about me thats not there,told her it would have been worse had she given it another go and knew in her heart she didnt love me.

Its has been the greastest learning experience for me and believe me i have seen my father take his last breath in front of me and seen other things in life.what im trying to say is that there is a big world out there and though as hard as it may seen life does go on and being down about relationships is not a bad thing but make sure you learn from it and it will make you stronger.

These sayings have been said to death but they really are true

what doesnt kill you makes you stronger
whats for you will not pass you
things happen for a reason

These sayings work if you learn from your mistakes and be true to yourself

keep strong anybody thats nursing a broken heart,life does go on