Wife left me i feel like crap

plainjane81

13 years together 2 year old son after 13 weeks of marraige she left me.
tells me she cheated on me with her sisters boss 10 years ago she getting it off her chest.
i never stood up for myself just really coming to terms with what i think of me which is not a lot started therapy a week before she told me shes done. its 6 months in total now she left house 2 months ago.

oh and shes been all of a sudden talkin to the same guy she cheated on me with days after she said shes done.
oh and now hes her boyfriend my son has already seen him. she doesnt think she left me for another man i know i hurt her but i have been goin through something for a few years now but i dont think she believes me. she just thinks i am same guy always as we had something similar years ago bit of a time out. but u havent been well started 4 years ago but its mainly done me upstairs my head. it affected me more than i realised and made me shut down. i know i hurt her but started getting help she didnt even give me a chance. just went straight to him and she doesnt think she did anything wrong. we were not together. she didnt even try to give herself time out maybe calm down just talk to him i never had a chance but she denies she went to him.

i actually dont want her back now but the pain is torture as i still love her.. not seeing my son everyday hes 2 is a killer but knowing what she did, is now doing is killin me. have gotten stronger feelin better at times but i just want it to stop what the hell when will this agony end

HELP

greenprincess

Your post is very confusing! What happened four years ago that you changed? Were ye working on your problems?

plainjane81

got sick throwin up side of road havin to go tiolet. it would just come on me. only really after i ate could be an hour later.

getting tested for 2 years not knowing what it was. i already had problems with fear but just in terms of fear it just shut me down. i thought i was handling it but i was hiding not wanting to do anything well just fearful of leaving the house. it was my safe haven if i felt crap or needed the tiolet.
i would go to the shop with her and feel like crap nearly collapse cause i didnt want to let her down.
found out it was bacteria in stomach but also IBS. but finding out what it was didnt help. cause there wasnt a cure for it just eat better and fingers crossed. i tried to ignore still ate still would have bad days. but it was my head more than anything else.

She came to me asked me if i was ok and shes never come to me direct like that and thats when i broke downm realised i wasnt happy. i was consumed with fear and anxiety. that was few weeks before i started therapy

omahaid

Hi OP,

Sounds like a genuinely horrible situation. Best advice I can think of is to head to a good solicitor. It says something that she waited until just after you were married to leave you...

Wompa1

Sounds like a crap situation and to be honest it must have nothing to do with what you've been going through because she cheated 10 years ago. She's a miserable piece of crap of a human being for doing that to you, you are right for not wanting her back...it unfortunately will just take time to get over her. Sorry for your pain