I'm infatuated with this girl and I'm not sure what to do, it's complicated

LegacyUser

I'm infatuated with this girl and I don't know a lot about her. The thing is that she has an identical twin. The thing is is that I snogged her twin sister years ago on several occasions at a teenage disco. A friend of mine jokingly asked her twin that I wanted to snog her after I finished snogging her sister. She took it seriously and I just avoided them after that. Now six years after that I still feel nervous when they are around.

I don't think these are real feelings just a case of infatuation. I've gone from being infatuated with the sister that I snogged to the sister that I didn't snog. Every time she is around I get nervous. She is really beautiful but she doesn't know that I exist. I like to look at her pictures on facebook, which makes me look pretty sad since we are not even friends, I don't stalk her or anything I just like to look from time to time. She's friends with friends of mine, we usually turn up at a house and go drinking before a night out. They would be there but in a different group of friends. This is sort of admiration from afar. This isn't a sexual thing, I just find her very attractive though everyone mightn't agree, I find her uniquely beautiful if that makes any sense? There is just something about this girl and I don't know what it is.

Can anyone tell me how to get over infatuation? Is this infatuation or is this something else? I've felt like this for years now!

The thing is that I don't know a lot about her but have these feelings for her, I feel too nervous to make a move on her. I don't think they are real feelings anyway, but I don't know why I can't just get up the courage to talk to her. I guess I am put off from doing it because the sister might think that I have some sort of weird fetish for twins or that she might remember what my friend asked her years back at the teenage disco, do you think she'd remember this? I feel embarresed to of had these feelings for years now and have never done anything about it. She could be perfect for me but yet I'm too nervous, on the other hand she could be the worst person for me while I'll spend the rest of my life wondering if she was the one. I'm getting to a stage of my life where I will be leaving my hometown and I'll probably never see her again, so it's either now or never.

Perhaps she has picked up on certain cues that I might like her and she just isn't interested. This is really complicated, and I'm thinking of making an effort to have a conversation with her the next time she is about? Perhaps just to help get this out of my head. Can someone please help me out here.

You can see why I posted anonymously, this just makes me sound like a complete freak and a stalker. But I do have a bussy life style and I'm very active.

LegacyUser

Im not really sure what your problem is. You have a crush on an aquaintence it sounds like. Get to know her, you'll either find out you have things in common, enjoy her company or realise it is just an infatuation.

Its been a few years since you kissed her sister, you said she doesnt notice you so chances are both of them have put the awkward incident with your friend behind them by now.

Fentdog84

You say she is a friend of a friend. You should enquire to them about her, does she have a bf, whats she like? etc..Maybe let them know you're interested in her, they might be able to introduce you and get talking to her.. Or else just get talking to her yourself. No use lying at home in bed every night wondering what if. But the reality is that you dont even know this person, only an impression from afar, so she could be a very different person to what you envisage. The thing that happened with her sister was something minor that happened years ago, wouldnt make a big deal of it. Yeah sure go for it, but the tone of your post its like something from cloudcuckooland, perhaps at the same time you would be better served forgetting about her, there are plenty other girls in the world..you seem to have wasted alot of time and mental energy on a person that you have never even had a conversation with

LegacyUser

I think the next time I see her I will finally get the courage up and talk to her, it might help me stop being so nervous around her and possible put her out of my head.

I don't know why but part of me feels weird about it, the way I've had these feelings for but haven't made any effort in all these years. Plus her sister is usually allways there with her, beside her, which is what makes it awkward. I'm very worried as comming across as some weirdo or feel very nervous of making a very bad impression. Is it normal to be like this, to have had a crush/infatuated with someone and never made a move on them.