Personal relations problem

celica1994

Hey, i recently split with my long term girlfriend, im suffering badly over it with depression, its consisiting of depression caused of course about the relationship ending, but alot down to the fact im nearly completely alone and cannot over the last few years seem to form personal realationships with people be it friends or otherwise, im pretty friendly, it it just seems i cannot seem to form a relationship with anyone to the point where it evolves past being aquaintances or colleuges, i dont get out much, mostly down to the fact ive got no one to go out with.. but its seriously starting to worry me, ive read similar posts on here about people in the same boat as myself, im curious as to maybe i might have a deep routed phychological disorder... my parents gave us a very harsh childhood and was extreemly physically abusive towards me and my siblings... i think deep down this might have affected me phycologically.... i have one brother who ended up a heroine addict, another that is a nervous wreck and im not exactally much better then either of them, putting a long story short, would i benifit from visiting a phyciatrist? any advise is appreciated

LegacyUser

If it was tough in your house when you were young, it would have had a negative effect on your mental health, because these wer the formative years in your life.
But alas, all is not lost.....see your GP, he will get you to see a psychiatrist, if you go on medication for a while it will be worthwhile finding out how long it will take to kick in and what side effects to expect initially. It will take a good bit of work with a councillor and some time, be patient, but it sounds like you are on the right track in being aware you have a problem tha needs to be dealt with. Best of luck, its well worth it, its your life!

LegacyUser

It sounds to me like counselling might be useful for you. It could be worth a try to talk through some issues.

A psychiatrist is more for serious psychatric disorders, and mostly they seem to just write prescriptions for drugs for these conditions, on the public health system anyway (I knew a few people attending psychiatrists, who needed counselling as well as drugs, but who would just get prescriptions from the psychiatrists and nothing else. Though this was all in one hospital so I don't know if it varies from place to place.

In the US psychiatrists seem to do counselling more, but not so much here. It seems to be difficult to get counselling here on the public system. Your doctor can always write anti-depressant prescription if they/you feel you need it).


What you are describing sounds normal to me under the circumstances and not a psychiatric disorder.

If you have to pay for private counselling there are some places which are charities which have subsidised counselling for people on low incomes. Your doctor might know of them. Also colleges sometimes have counsellors available for students for free, if you are in college.

One more thing to consider is that I think there is a cultural thing in Ireland that makes it difficult to get close to people, possibly more so for guys. I am finding it difficult myself to get properly close to people, as so many people seem to have barriers up. I don't think this is your only problem, but it is possibly adding to the situation.

Good luck anyway with whatever you decide.

celica1994

thanks for the advise guys, maybe councilling might be a good option, i dont mind paying for it but how do i go about it?

chiefbrody1974

sorry to hear that mate, that's very rough and though im privy to taking the piss on most occassions, I wont here. You should go see someone or talk maybe with a local volounteer perhaps. Im not sure what kind of services there are, but judging by your name, il take a punt and say you're still a teenager??? everthing in life is amplified when you're a teenager. I hope you'll be ok, and im sorry to hear about your siblings and how it affected them. On the upside, you seem quite inteligent and the fact that you recognise your family history as the source of these personal hardships, means alot. I hope you'll be ok. chin up, read more when you're alone. it will give you perspective on life.