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break up time?

  • 24-04-2011 9:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I would really appreciate some advice on this...

    me and my boyfriend have been together nearly six years now (met when we were both 18), but recently things have started to go bad between us, we dont live together (his choice but im ok with that because it is easier for him to live at home at the moment) so only see each other a few nights a week. recently- the last year on and off- we've been arguing a lot, over stupid things that arent even important, we argue and argue then make up, but he normally holds a grudge the next day over it. I know Im no saint about these arguments but he's been really stressed and blames this and me not understanding often. this is also effecting our sex life, i usually am really attracted to him but at times i just go along with it because its just easier.

    today it all came to a head after last night having a stupid argument, making up then him returning to it today, going an hour journey in a car without speaking to me. after which I told him I couldnt do this any longer, he pleaded and kept pleading to give us another chance and vowed if we argue once more in the next month we'll break up. I (maybe being stubborn) wouldnt agree to giving us another chance because I feel that we may be delaying the inevitable. but basically now Im at home, he's gone out, Im wondering am I being too extreme not giving us another chance and maybe we're just a normal couple?

    any advice would really help from an outside perspective!
    thanks!


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  • #2
    Azureus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,130 ✭✭✭Azureus


    Normal couples argue. Some argue a lot, some have one blow-out argument once every blue moon, it depends on a combination of personalities.
    Are the arguments about the same things? Is there stuff you can work on or is it just general irritability on both sides?

    As for the sex issue, you two are together a long time. You are not going to want to jump eachothers bones every second anymore and sex drives dont always end up simultaneous. But make sure that you are still attracted to him and do want him as opposed to just being comfortable with him and gonig along with it when the opportunity arises. You say he's stressed-theres no bigger buzz killer than being anxious.

    Give it a chance, talk it out, lay everything out on the table. Theres no room for stubborness in make or break territory imo


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