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Am I over thinking stuff

  • 24-04-2011 3:35pm
    #1
    shoes34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 620 ✭✭✭


    A really good friend of mine came home from Australia for Easter last Sunday and we are all meeting up tonight. Now my parents own a bar in the town we live in and today she texted to say what time shall we meet up at and where but anywhere except the bar my parents own. Now we own it but don't run it. I text her back and said oh ok but is there something wrong with the bar and she no I just don't want to go there want to go to another bar.


    I just thought it was kinda rude she put any except in capital letters and I was going to go to a surprise 30 there tonight and now I don't know what to do just go to the bar and say to her sorry but I am going to be able to meet you (she'll be with other friends) or just go meet her and just grin and bear it.

    Maybe i am just over thinking as due my period in a day or so and I guess could be just senstive!


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  • #2
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    Hard to know. Perhaps she just doesn't like the bar your parents own. I'm sure there are bars you never go to because you're not mad about the atmosphere/the music/the decor etc.

    The next bit I'm confused about. Is the surprise 30th birthday party being held in your parent's bar? Was your plan to kill two birds with the one stone? It's just not clear :confused:


  • #3
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    Op, not only are you over-thinking it. You're probably not thinking about it from your friend's point of view.

    Perhaps you always seem to suggest your parent's bar, and your friend just wants a change of scenery?

    Or maybe your friend just wants somewhere that you don't mention your parent's ownership of the bar every time, or where you know all the staff by name, or where everyone knows that your parents own the bar and you're a micro-celeb there.

    Just try a new, more neutral setting.

    I can understand why you might be annoyed about the "EXCEPT", but I'm sure your friend didn't mean anything bad by it.

    As for the surprise 30th, if it was for a close friend or relative and you were looking forward to it, why don't you explain to your friend you have other plans that night? Or if it's more a surprise 30th for one of your parent's acquaintances... how about going to it for an hour and meeting your friend after?


  • #4
    shoes34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 620 ✭✭✭shoes34


    tenchi-fan wrote: »
    Or maybe your friend just wants somewhere that you don't mention your parent's ownership of the bar every time, or where you know all the staff by name, or where everyone knows that your parents own the bar and you're a micro-celeb there.


    I would never mention the fact my parents own it nor am I treated in the bar like they own it - it was the way she said it that upset me more putting EXCEPT in capital letters was a bit rude I think. I don't go there myself all the time either but as I said it was the way she worded it.


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