Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Upsetting family situation

  • 22-04-2011 11:40am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I fell out with my sister a few years ago due to squabbles and arguements as siblings do growing up.

    My sister eventually cut me out from her life despite the not looking at where she went wrong during arguements and despite the fact I was able so see where I went wrong and I tried and wanted to patch things up but I was ignored. Something I found distressing. I had no option to walk away from the situation and I thought time and space would improve things. When my sister cut all ties loose she was going through a rough patch and a low period. The years that followed I watched her turn her life around for the better however she still remained unhappy. I learned she was to go abroad for work. I was delighted for her. It was exactly what she needed and I wished her well. My good wishes were ignored.

    She is back now on holidays. When I heard she was coming home I was hoping she would be happy and a different person, and maybe we could try and fix things. Well, she is still unhappy, quite and still ignoring me


Comments

  • #2
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    OP, you can't make your sister talk to you if she doesn't want to. Its been a number of years since you both fell out and the longer it goes on the harder it can be to go back - assuming she would want to go back that is. She may not.

    While some people may think its really sad that siblings fall out, I personally believe that that being related does not entitle you to a relationship. Respect isn't an automatic thing but some siblings seem to think they can get away with all sorts of behaviour because "ah sure, she's my sister, it'll be fine." Life doesn't work that way.

    Now, I'm not suggesting you think that way, and I know you said you tried to patch things up but she has made her decision. You might think she is being stubborn in refusing to acknowledge her part in the fall out, but she may feel that the two of you just don't get along and she doesn't want to waste her time on a relationship with you that doesn't work.

    If she is currently unhappy it is up to her to sort her life out. I know I sound harsh, but its none of your business.


Advertisement