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Second date!

  • 21-04-2011 11:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Going anon for this but I'd really love advice/help!My best friend and wingwoman is away and need all the advice I can get!

    Having a second date with a guy this week. Despite being almost 25 I'm a bit of a novice to be honest and need all the tips I can get! Had a nice first date and we're going out for dinner now! I know that can be a little intimate etc... but it's ok by me!

    Anyway just looking for tips!
    i.e.
    what to wear?
    What should/could we chat about?
    How to make sure he knows I like him (cos I do! ha!)

    Any other tips etc... welcome!
    Also he's about 5/6 years older than me. Anyone had experience of this. Personally I don't see a big issue but again, just looking for advice!

    Sorry for all the ranting! Just need all the help I can get!!!! :P


Comments

  • #2
    rainbow kirby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,928 ✭✭✭✭rainbow kirby


    Moved from tLL to RI.


  • #3
    thecookingapple
    Closed Accounts Posts: 130 ✭✭thecookingapple


    Dating is fun, i wont give you advice what to wear, better qaulified people here to do that.


    Just be calm, dont practice scenarios and conversations as these go out the door when you sit togeather and eat for the first time, your likeness for him will shine through when you reach a point in the dinner that you are confortable and you forget all the pre planned notions.

    am excited for you :) good luck.


  • #4
    Kevin Duffy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,439 ✭✭✭Kevin Duffy


    seconddategirl wrote: »
    what to wear?
    What should/could we chat about?
    How to make sure he knows I like him (cos I do! ha!)

    I'd decide what to wear depending on the venue (along with the normal rules of putting your best foot forward).
    Chat about anything that interests either of you. Anything. Apply the principle of "past present future" when you find out someone's interests and passions, "oh, you're into whatever? How did you get into that? Do you do much of it? Where will that take you/what's to goal with that?", that's got me out of a flat spot more than once. You can't plan the whole conversation, don't try, it's a fallback for blank moments. Don't be afraid to talk about yourself, it's taking the pressure off him to talk and he's there because of his interest in you after all. Don't forget too that he's got similar thoughts going on so there's no more or less pressure on you than him.

    As to letting him know you like him....make eye contact, laugh at his stupid jokes, make contact if the mood and moment if right, just a hand on his or link him or similar. I'd be the first giving out if anyone generalised about blokes, but we are simple creatures in certain areas ;)

    5/6 years is nothing, barely worth calling a gap.

    Have a great time.


  • #5
    Rufus the brave
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34 ✭Rufus the brave


    If the restaurant surroundings are giving proceedings a sort of awkward formalness then eat up and get out of there. Head the nearest pub and sit in the darkest section and have a snog.


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