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How to relax about the future?

  • 20-04-2011 10:03AM
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    LegacyUser
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    Goin unreg for this cuz i'd be morto if anyone knew who i was! i'm a 25 year old female. 1 serious relationship behind me. he dumped me, i'd be lying if i said i didn't want to be back with him. think that might be related to why i'm posting here tho.

    basically, i know this is irrational but i get really panicky at the thought that i'm never going to get married :o. i dunno why i'm like this. i don't even want kids or anything. nearly all my freinds are in long term relationships and i feel like a failure because i'm single. i'm so afraid that there all going to start getting engaged and i'll be even more left behind. i know i'm quite young so i shouldn't even be worrying about this yet. i'm reasonably attractive and don't have many problems meeting guys on nights out but they only ever seem interested in spending the night with me. my social circle is limited and right now i'm not in a position to do anything about that. also my friends are nearly all female.

    what i'm really asking for is practical advice for how to stop worrying about the future. i normally trust that everything happens for a reason but when it comes to the idea of meeting someone i'm afraid i'll be alone forever. like i said, i want to get back together with my ex but rationally i think that has more to do with me being afraid of never meeting anyone else than thinking he's The One. ive gone for counselling in the past about anxiety but we never dealt with this. i know that i just need to change my thought pattern and just take life as it comes but i don't know how to do that!!


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