Heartbreak Hotel

LegacyUser

Hi all, I’m going unreg for this as I’m a bit embarrassed. First a bit of background: I’ve recently got over a traumatic breakup with my long-term GF so I took some time out to get my head together. I decided to go travelling in Thailand. I was a bit nervous about travelling alone as it was my first time going abroad without my ex-GF. But as it turns out, there was no reason to worry because very soon into my trip I met a really nice girl in the hotel I was staying in. For the next few weeks, we had an intense, passionate relationship. Due to the end of my trip, we had to leave each other. Though this was difficult for both of us, we parted on good terms and vowed to see each other again someday. She said she wanted to come to Ireland for the summer. I went back to my job at home while she stayed on in Thailand. Despite our promises to each other, she doesn’t reply to any of my emails and FB chats. I really thought we had an emotional connection but I’m starting to think I was wrong. Was I a fool for thinking this? I feel a bit used. Has anyone got any advice on how to approach this?

Oryx

You need to realise that for her at least, this was a holiday fling, and now she is gone. So your only way to approach it is to accept that and allow yourself to heal from it. Stay out of a relationship and get some headspace for a while.

muboop1

So, she said in thailand that she wanted to come visit you.

Now, however, she will not respond to your mails etc?

Honestly? Let it go... harsh as it is, she is making her point clear by ignoring you. Its bad form but it was a holiday fling, remember it fondly and try leave it at that.

Its hard after a breakup to not launch all your feelings on a new person, a rebound effectively. You feel like you are missing something so you fill it with the next thing you can... if/when it ends... it can feel like the original breakup again sometimes...

Its bad form, and a pain... but I think you should just let it go... only pro longing a pain. IF she wanted you bad, or wanted to meet up... she will contact you! you've given her the opportunity.

snugglebear

I agree with previous posters, it's best to chalk this one down to experience and move on, it does sound like a holiday fling and although they are intense at the time, when people go back to their normal everyday lives you're feelings about it may change.
If she isn't reponding to you it's best to forget and move on, try being single for a while and just enjoy life

What happens in Thailand more than often not, stays in Thailand. Apart from herpes, that shlt follows you everywhere.



Seriously though, if she is still there having a good time, then chances are she is still in holiday mode and isn't worried about it.. I know if I had a fling in Thailand, I wouldn't think about it again until I left there.
Wait and see if she contacts you when she's left the place. It's all you can do.