Take job or not?

LegacyUser

Hi, just going to write this down quick as I'm sick of thinking about it. I'm 23, graduated last year. Applied for a foreign job with a very well known company a couple of months ago, thinking nothing would come of it.

Well, it did- first they flew me out for an interview, now I've been offered a job. Thing is, I have a lt boyfriend who I'm very happy with, and I want adventure, but feel this would be a step too far for where my head is now. Thing is, people keep telling me the economy is in tatters, it's a great opportunity etc. I can't make myself think the same way. I have a good degree and am working an unpaid internship here with a view to getting a job in the industry, which is relatively recession-proof.

The country is very far away and very different. I keep thinking I'd experience crushing isolation and loneliness at times, although I'm not a shy person. And lately I've been thinking that career really isn't everything. Even these days! On the other hand, maybe I will regret it in 10-15 years. Who knows.

In my situation, would you take the job? Have to respond to them ASAP so quick replies appreciated!

thecookingapple

A difficult choice for sure, the adventurous in me thinks go, the romantic in me says stay, i suppose just work out what is really important to you and what your long term plans are, i am sorry i cant give you better advice, i suppose its just one of those things that you must decide by yourself, being an adult can suck.

Good Luck

LegacyUser

Bump! Getting desperate!

Oryx

decisionsdecisions wrote: »

Bump! Getting desperate!

Noone here can make this decision for you.

Have you talked to your boyfriend? Is your job/internship something you can pick up again if you come back after a year?

Having been someone who didnt take chances she should have, Im a firm believer that you dont regret the things you do, only the things you didnt do. But this is your choice, based on your life. If you dont go, will you always look back and wonder should you have? If you do go, can you live with dropping a good relationship, and security?

Weigh it up and go with your gut.

No one can help you make this decision.. But unless you see a very very serious future with the boyfriend, I'd say take the job.

solovely

I've a little sister your age who has a long-term boyfriend, and I know if she was in your situation and asked for advice, I'd say take the job, without a shadow of a doubt....but as everyone else has pointed out, every situation is different and only you can decide what you want to do.

Maybe write a list, but in the end you need to go with your gut.

As oryx (and millions of other people) have said, in life we regret the things we didn't do, not the things we did. Some more cliches....life is a journey, not a destination...you only live once...feel the fear and do it anyway....etc, etc.

You are so young, you have so much of life left to live, you have nothing holding you back. Go out and grab it and love every minute.

By the way, why can't your boyfriend come with you?

Also, at 23 you are very young to be thinking career is not everything...are you unsure about your chosen path in any way?

And the lonliness, seriously, if you are any way outgoing at all, there will be a mad bunch of expats for you to hang out with wherever you are going. You are Irish, come on, it's very hard to be an Irish person overseas and to be lonely. You will be grand!

Firetrap

Only you can decide ultimately. I get the impression reading through your post that actually you don't really want to go but you feel it's the right thing to do. Have you chatted to your boyfriend about it? Is there any chance he could go with you?

It sounds like a great opportunity. As you said, you're working unpaid at the moment, hoping to get a paid job. How sure are you that that will happen? Might you be looking at emigration a few months down the line anyway?

If it's a large company, chances are that there are Irish people out there already, not to mention folk from other English speaking countries. Some companies are very helpful when it comes to setting new staff from abroad settle in so it's not as if you'd be turning up at the airport and not sure where to go next.

How about looking again at the job and deciding to try it out for a while. If you don't like it then, you can always come back here. It's not as if you have to go out there forever. Perhaps you might regret it if you don't take it.

HugoDrax

Dump your boyfriend, grab the new job and live a completely new life and find an amazing man in another country?

or

Decide you are happy enough where you are?

There's no right or wrong answer.
There is just what you do and what you don't.

The only thing you need to know is that you cannot avoid making a decision.

It's either or.

Fluorescence

Take the job. Go! If you don't like it there'll be nothing stopping you coming home again. OP, you're just scared of change. This is a wonderful opportunity and I think you should grab with both hands and bury your face in its boobs :P. What have you to lose?

LegacyUser

Take the job. Ask yourself what would you regret more - staying or leaving?

LegacyUser

Got in touch with them today and turned down the job. It was a really hard decision but I feel so relieved. My main reasons were 1) It really made me question if this is even the career I want, (as one poster mentioned) which is something I've thought about on and off for the last several years. 2) The type of work it is is not done anywhere in Ireland, so may have found it hard to come back to a job here, and I ultimately do want to settle down in Ireland.

Since all this has come to light I have given a lot of thought to pursuing something completely new, don't want to say too much! I know it sounds like I was being unadventurous and scared, but I think it was more about making me realise what I actually want to do with my life.

Thanks for all the advice, it really helped as I have been going crazy the last few days!