Making new friends??

SupaReckless

I recently met up with an old friend, Sara that moved to Tyrellstown a few years ago, she has a fabulous fiancé and two lovely kids almost school going age. I'm the same age, a writer, no strings and still live in the part of town we grew up in. We have kept in sporadic touch, making sure to meet up every six months or so and text and facebook regularly.
I was filling her in on how I recently had a very painful falling out with a very dear friend and felt that it was irreparable between us. I believe in life, either you are the problem or the problem solver and I felt that we had had too many encounters where I had let my personal feelings and principals fall by the wayside to facilitate our friendship, and that she had gone too far this time and that This time I had to be my own friend first.
Sara then opened up that she had a similar friend that only rang and talked about herself, and despite having kids the same age as her own, she never asked about them. What had particularly hurt her had been this friends lack of acknowledgement of her birthday this year- especially with facebook telling everyone these days. I asked Sara why she would even bother with someone so self centred and that if she wanted to salvage the friendship that she would probably have to confront her on some aspects of her behaviour and help her understand how painfull it was- because in fairness, I believe in giving people the benifit of the doubt, maybe the girl didn't realise. Sara was reluctant about the idea, I asked what is the worst that could happen, that even if she lost her, that she wasn't even losing a great friend to be honest,and I was shocked by the response. She said bar me that this girl was her only other friend she could call a close friend. That she didn't want to be lonely that she was too young to be sitting in, She's 30.
She said she found it hard to make friends, new friends. She works most days with a crew older then her, until one then she picks the kids up and brings them home and feeds them, brings them to activities. She is by no means a shy person she is definitely the most confident person I know. She looked a little embarrassed by the admission.
I reassured her that, even in my own life the people I rely on and could depend on are usually the girls from my childhood- I myself haven't made a new "friend" someone I could just call over to unannounced, in about a year, and I am in constant contact with people.
I'm not really sure how to council or console her?? I presume that this is kind of usual as now she has a family so alot of her time and energy goes on that? But after eight, when she puts the kids to bed, I know she is lonely.

Wibbs

Better here I reckon OP